no mom or dad to push me & i want so badly to be accomplished & graduated from college, but i cant seem to motivate myself. are there any suggestions? i really want to go & get it over with!!!
2006-12-29 15:50:45 · 11 answers · asked by Johnnie's cash🌴🌙☂✈ 4 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
Would this attitude make your mother proud? Is this what she would want you to do? Is she looking down on you smiling or frowning. I hate to be harsh, but it sounds like you need it. Get up off your butt and make your mother proud. Make her even prouder by being proud of yourself. Success is happiness. And every mother wants her child to be successful.
2006-12-29 18:44:26 · answer #1 · answered by Sue A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother passed suddenly in my first week of college. All she had wanted for me was to go to college so I could lead a better life than she did and even though it was really hard ( I was living at home with my father who had Post Traumatic Stress and ended up practically raising my 12 year old brother) I kept that in mind. My mom would have kicked my butt for laying around and letting myself waste away because she wasn't there. So I went and I did it. It also served as a distraction for a lot of the pain, to stick my head in a book and study hard. Is there anyone else in your life who can help you? A friend you're really close with? You need someone who will tell you failure is not an option. Good luck and I promise it gets better.
2006-12-29 16:00:39 · answer #2 · answered by breezy_otay 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Self-motivation is the biggest problem for most people, in college, and in life. You're not alone.
Perhaps a taste of life without a degree would help motivate you. Take a summer job working as a housekeeper and see if that's what you really want to do with the rest of your life. If not, then go back to school.
2006-12-30 06:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your Mom. Even though your parents are
not around to help persuade you to go to college, they will always
be with you in heart and soul. Well when you go to college just
remember that your not only doing this for yourself, your doing
this for moms and pops. I know it is hard letting go and you will
never let go. How do I know this my dad just passed away 3-22-06 and we will never let him go. We may feel selffish and feel that
he may not be resting in peace, but before he took his last breath
I told him that we would take care of mom and each other go
rest in peace, which about an hour later he did pass and now
I feel he is not resting in peace because we keep holding on.
Are we being selfish or it LOVE? All you have to do is go to school and on the week ends go visit her at the cemetry and
tell her how you accomplished in college, or like I tell everyone
keep a Journal and when you want to talk to her you can say it
in your journal as your doing your visiting, stay for an hour or a
few hours. I just wish I could go every week ends like my sisters
they live in L.A, CA where my father is buried and we live 4 hours
away from them. The last time we been there was in August 06.
So go to College and she'll know deep down in her soul she'll
know. Just remember when you dream of her, she is visiting you
in you dreams. and when your at the cemetry your visiting her.
Just go for your dreams thats what she wants and that is what
you want. Be strong, Get a hug from a family member cause
you need it, even if it is from your Cusin,Aunt, Uncle,friend,Boy-
friend or Husband.
2006-12-29 16:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try therapy to work through some of the grief. What you are experiencing is very normal....Don't beat yourself up about it....there ARE solutions out there for you...but I think starting to work through some of the grief may be helpful....Having no mom and dad can be very traumatic....and it's ok...to struggle for a while....but to get on a path of healing....will start moving in a forward direction...
Good luck...and Stay String...
2006-12-29 16:00:06 · answer #5 · answered by City 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal grieving process. Try to refocus your attention to the fact that your mom is still watching and has certain expectations you need to achieve. This may help. Take time to miss her though and make sure you still talk to her when you are thinking about her.
2006-12-29 15:59:35 · answer #6 · answered by spag 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
half the battle is continuing to go. can be the same with life... just showing up will allow for good things to happen. trust me, in a few years you will wonder how college went by so fast!
email me if you need a pen pal for encouragement! best wishes to you!
2006-12-29 15:57:06 · answer #7 · answered by justr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think of how proud your mom will be looking down on you from Heaven on your graduation day!
May God and your Mother be with you!
2006-12-29 15:58:49 · answer #8 · answered by Sarasvah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try going part time while working... a class or 2 a semester shouldn't be that bad.
2006-12-29 15:54:06 · answer #9 · answered by CountSackula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to go? Think about the reasons. Picture your life if you go to college and then picture it if you do not go.
2006-12-29 15:55:25 · answer #10 · answered by shadouse 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋