If born without, can one acquire such a talent?
2006-12-29 15:42:14 · 17 answers · asked by Diesel Weasel 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i think everyone has a certain kind of charm that they are born with. i guess you could learn to put up some front and acquire a more readily accessible charm, but that can never be you. and any relationship would begin under false premises right from the start. id say we should stick with who we are and hope we find someone who values our own brand of "charm"
2006-12-29 15:46:26 · answer #1 · answered by Circlometry™³ 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yes, charm is a learned pattern of behavior, but some people can pick it up more easily than others. Charm is anything but natural for me, for example. The closest I can come to charming is rote memorization of some situation in which to say please, thank you, you're welcome, hello, good-bye, etc. I can also speak in depth about numerous academic subjects, which can be considered charming in the right context, I suppose.
If a person has significant autistic traits (or Asperger's syndrome), they are likely to have trouble learning the social graces even if otherwise very intelligent.
2006-12-29 23:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by Néant Humain 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Smile and look happy. It is very important that you are kind and courteous. Learn good etiquette and be genuine. Be interested in people. Try to subdue your negative habits. Be likable. Yes you can acquire all this if you try and be charming.
2006-12-29 23:58:27 · answer #3 · answered by rams 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that charm can be learned, but it takes a lot of work. Some people seem to come by it naturally, while others are very shy by nature or rude by nature. I have seen people learn to be more empathic and not as blunt. I have seen people learn to get rid of habits and comments that annoy others. So yes it can be learned.
2006-12-30 00:12:15 · answer #4 · answered by Future Citizen of Forvik 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think charm is a learned behavior.
As are social graces and credibility. That is not to say there are any guarantees that there won't be a bad apple amongst them all, but statistically, most will have developed those positive traits by the time they reach maturity.
2006-12-29 23:53:01 · answer #5 · answered by Gnome 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Charm is about being yourself, everyone has a different view about how a person is considered charming. Everyone is charming in their own way thus being yourself is still the best
2006-12-30 05:27:22 · answer #6 · answered by youtypetooslow 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think people can learn to be pleasant but truly charming people are born that way, just like people are born with intelligence, or not, or born with beauty, or not.
2006-12-30 01:30:42 · answer #7 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's something you learn. A lot of people are taught it as they grow up. If you weren't you can definitely learn it at any age. All charm is about is being kind, respectful, and courteous to others.
2006-12-29 23:50:48 · answer #8 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe so. A guy can learn to be a complete jerk on one end of the scale, and be very charming on the other end of the scale. I think there are a lot of factors that are involves though. Social-economc class, education, upbringing, etc. In short...yes. : )
2006-12-29 23:44:57 · answer #9 · answered by Chistiaŋ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do you think that Quasimodo could have acquired enough charm to win Esmeralda?
2006-12-29 23:48:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋