just need some advice?

Question

my boyfriend seem like he than changed. he acts like our relationship dosnt matter no more. he puts his friends before me now. he uses fowl language all the time now.he also just be mean to me and he hurts my feelings.when i tell him he say u does that to yourself. we have been together for almost 1 year.....any advice on how to get him to understand what he be doing to??? any advice at all will be accepted

Answer 1

hey,
Well maybe he's mad at you for something you did or said? Actually it seems as if he's sort of trying to make you break up with him...there's something definately going on with him. How long has he been acting like this? Have you guys had any arguments you havent settled in the past? He's being spiteful and mean to you on purpose. Although it doesn't mean you have to take it, sit him down, tell him the relationship is important for you and you need to talk things through and know what's wrong with him. If he keeps acting like a baby there's nothing else you can do, let him be immature,. I know you don't wanna hear it but you can't put up with this type of behavior, if he keeps being like that you have to move on sweety, trust me. Not worth it.

Answer 2

Tell him that you have come to a point in the relationship where you feel you 2 need to get some things out on the table, let him know that it may be no big deal to HIM, butu you value your relationship and want to make sure you are both on the same page. Ask him if he's unhappy in the relationship? If he's getting bored? What you can do to "spice it up" or should you just throw in the towel? be sure & let him know that you are certainly not hurting yourself! If that was the case, you would be a cutter or bolemic or some crazy s***. He needs to know that his behavior is unacceptible to you, and if he doesn't wantto meet you half way, then show him the road map to 'GET ON OUTTA HERE".
Ok?.OK!! Be strong baby, no woman should play second fiddle, you should be the lead instrument!!

Answer 3

I hate to say it, but what you have described sounds exactly like what guys do to try and end a relationship. The sad thing is, they don't want to do it themselves so they start acting like idiots until the girl ends it. This way, he is not the bad guy.

Of course I could be wrong, but going from what you said I don't know what else to say.

You could try asking him straight out, "Do youy want to end this?" Of course you run the risk if being broken hearted, but if the answer is yes, you save yourself a lot of pain in the future and you are making sure he knows it's his choice not yours. If the answer is no then you can clearly explain to him how upset you are at his behaviour.

It's not easy, I know. Good luck.

Answer 4

If u really care about this guy make him chose either he changes and you guys can stay together or he decides its over because you wont put up with him acting like that anymore. If he doesnt change after that than let him go. If he disrespects you like that now what do you think he would do to you in the future once he knows you will take it.

Answer 5

He is doing what you allow him to do. He is treating you like crap and you are taking it. Talking to him does not work because he doe not care. Do you have that low of self esteem that you can not find someone better who treats you good the way that you should. Why would you settle for this piece of garbage. If you do not leave him then do not complain anymore for the things he does because you have an out, you can walk away. So the choice is yours. Life is to short not to be happy. Good luck

Answer 6

I don't think you need to tell him what he is doing to you because he already knows and doesn't care. You are not important to him and I think you may be just another girl to him he doesn't want to put up with for some reason. Talking to him would not accomplish anything. You need to get away from him and leave him alone and go your own way. Find some guy who will appreciate you and care for you and treat you with respect. Go find a gentleman.

Answer 7

if someone changes they usually don't change back. it usually means they dont care anymore or dont want to be together anymore. if he doesnt treat you nicely, doesnt care about the relationship, won't talk to you, disregards your feelings, obviously he doesnt care about keeping you around. at the beginning he was trying to keep you around and was nice to you so you would be with him, right. so it's not like he doesnt know how to do that. you trying to 'make him understand' what he's doing is a waste of time, because he knows. take it from me i have been in a lot of relationships. Give up on him and find someone who will treat you like a princess. there is nothing special about a guy who doesnt treat his girlfriend right, i'm sure you can find someone better Hon!

Answer 8

Fowl language? So he is talking like a bird? Cool! Tell this chump to get lost. No one deserves to have their feelings played with like a yo-yo. He sounds immature and you need to be away from him. Immediately!!

Answer 9

Get rid of him, you deserve better, it may not seem like it at the moment but there is better out there. It is hard to leave a long term relationship, but it is only for the better.

Answer 10

Dump the jerk. It's just going to get worse. He is taking you for granted and will continue to mistreat you. Have you told him how it makes you feel when he does these things? If he still keeps it up get going, there are others who will treat you better.