The wife wants a divorce, but the husband does not desire a divorce. What resolution can be found?
2006-12-29 15:29:27 · 15 answers · asked by Travelin' Preacher 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I hate to say it, but once a woman decides she doesn't love you anymore, it is hard to go back. Women stew for a long time and when they finally make their mind up, they are pretty sure they know what they want. The only thing I believe a man can do is to back off and give her some space. If things were meant to be, it will work out.
2006-12-29 15:34:41 · answer #1 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best resolution is to attend a marriage counselor and get the reasons for the possible breakup out in the open. Communication is very important and is the basis of any resolution. Don't assume anything. You both need to talk about it to each other and why you both feel as you do and tell it to a marriage or divorce specialist so that the issue can be settled.
2006-12-29 15:35:29 · answer #2 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. I just went through a breakup where I did not want it to end, and my friend is going through one where she doesn't want it to end.
In neither case did our wishes or our efforts make the difference.
On the one hand, I tried to remain cheerful and work on the things he said bothered him. But ultimately it turned out these things were just kind of excuses and I'm not sure if he ever shared the real reasons for our breakup. A lot of it was conflicting and I ended up more confused than ever.
My friend got her SO to go to counseling and they tried to work out some of their differences -- after 26 years of marriage there were a few I guess -- and he ultimately came back from his parents insisting on a divorce. So far an amicable one.
If I were you, I would tell your wife you are sorry about whatever it is that you did to dampen her love for you and that you are willing to go to counseling to work on it if she will give you that chance. Then go to counseling no matter what she says and make yourself a better person.
Then, even if she doesn't take you back, you will have gained something positive from the whole ordeal and you will be more ready to make a success of it next time around.
There are also lots of sites devoted to getting over lost loves, and some really good suggestions if in fact things don't work out. The ones that helped me most were to avoid idealizing the person who left and focus instead on their flaws and the things I didn't miss. I also put away as many of the reminders as possible so there were fewer triggers for sadness, and I stayed as busy as possible doing positive things to better myself, my life and the lives of those I love to give myself a reason to get out of bed each day and go on living.
This is not an easy thing to go through, and you will grieve the loss the same as the death of a loved one -- but eventually, with time, it will get better.
I wish you the best of luck.
2006-12-29 15:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by Rubythorne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most states, it only takes one spouse to get a divorce...
the other does not have to want or agree to the divorce...
2006-12-29 16:18:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one that does not want the divorce should have a heart-to-heart talk with the other spouse to determine exactly why one wants out of the marriage. Once everything is out in the open, if one still wants out of the marriage...let the person go. If the person is not happy and wants out they will make your life miserable for the both of you.
2006-12-29 19:10:18 · answer #5 · answered by d b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two for marriage, but only one for divorce. So if she wants a divorce, she will probably get a divorce, eventually.
2006-12-29 16:22:51 · answer #6 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live in a "No Fault" law state like I do, well.......Its over.
Its called "Irreconcilable Differences" which is a vague gray area to what can be determined to be the definition for a divorce.
Its that easy to file, you can contest it, but it will still be over eventually whether you want it or not. One is all it takes to get out of a marriage if they so choose. Good luck.
2006-12-29 16:05:19 · answer #7 · answered by HowFuzzyWuzee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is never a good idea to try and stop someone from what they want to do, as they will just resent u later for it. no resolution can be found for this, there is always one spouse that wants out and one who doesn't, always one left with a broken heart, and one who is happy. we have to honor their wants, and give it to them, even if it means we get hurt by it, if we don't we will only get hurt later by it. we just have to accept their choice, and if we truly love them be patient, pray alot, give them their space, and see what happens. but be prepared for it to go either way.
2006-12-30 00:46:10 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wife can still file and have the husband served and take it from there. Most divorces are usually one sided.
2006-12-29 15:33:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like divorce
2006-12-29 15:33:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋