Is it ok to like someone even though your Married,but you'll probably will never see this person,especially if she is clear across another country, but you don't know if she feels the same?
2006-12-29 15:28:51 · 16 answers · asked by Smiley 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dear friend.
Sorry about all the slams and shame on yous' from the some of the folks here in this forum, they are telling you the truth though, it's just that their delivery can be abrasive.
You didn't have to be honest and you actually chose to step out and dare ask the question and I commend you for that.
It doesn't take a yahoo rocket scientist to know that marriage is sacred.
Maybe you are at a place in your life, where your honey is no longer your best friend, or maybe you feel like roommates, maybe you guys have taken some hits and there are some unresolved issues.
Maybe things are fine at home. However, let me save you from a lot of heartache and pain.
When it comes to being married, when one starts falling out of love, one sometimes without realizing starts fantasizing in their thought life.
You come across a woman that is attractive, maybe she notices you and your getting attention that is not happening at home.
Or maybe your hungry for intimacy, but your settling for false intimacy in someone else.
My honey of 25 years has really good antennas that I have learned to trust. Believe me, the stories that I can tell when I'm feeling lonely and I'm at the wrong place feeling vulnerable.
Us men, when we have never been validated as a man from our own Father, we look for it in women.
Maybe I'm getting too deep.
It's okay to find a woman attractive. God made us men visual. However, you can take one look but beware of the second.
I usually just look at a pretty lady in the eyes when talking with her.
Make a covenant with your eyes.
Ask yourself this penetrating question, why did I find myself attracted and starting to like this person?
Do I carry an offense toward my wife, is their unforgiveness?
Then if you love your bride, find a nice opportunity with her and share and talk to her as your best friend, forget the wife thing for a second.
Say honey, you know the other day, some chickie crossed my path and embarassing enough I found myself attracted. I had a lil bit of hard time getting off her my mind.
And say, I want you to know that I so desire YOU only and I want to stay committed in being a one woman man, I know I may need some work, we may have issues that we need to work through, but would you cover my heart in prayer, etc . . .
Pride and shame will be the only things holding you back.
Friend, I speak NO BACK UPS for love over you, it's not worth it.
With every kick, there is a kick back.
A nonjudgemental friend,
If you wish to talk further, cross over to www.myspace.com/mandorodarte
2006-12-29 18:51:22 · answer #1 · answered by Mando Man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... well there is no solid yes or no answer to whether it is okay to "like" someone other than your spouse... so I say, as a married person myself, that it is definitely natural to desire something that is out of your ordinary daily life... and I think it is okay if it simply ends in a deeper understanding of yourself and your wants/needs in life. For instance, why do you like this person? What traits do they have that perhaps your spouse doesn't have? Why not try to communicate with your spouse about things that you may feel are lacking... this may be uncomfortable at first but will, in a solid relationship, eventually make you both even stronger and happier with each other.
2006-12-29 15:39:56 · answer #2 · answered by madame_b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you like this person and what your intentions are. Is it OK to like a woman you work with? Yes, in the platonic sense. If you cross the platonic line then there may be problems. I don't know if you have ever thought about this. You are liking this person based on what she is telling you. You really don't know this person at all. There could be hidden secrecies that would disgust you.
2006-12-29 16:21:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a million. I met my significant other on the close by rollerskating rink, Rollerpalace 2. i became 14 years previous 3. It took me 2 seconds to attain i became in love (i became 14 - so sue me!) 4. on the instant I even have had 13 years of wedded bliss We married whilst i became 21...I had some stuff to do first! college for one!
2016-11-25 00:11:54 · answer #4 · answered by helmkamp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong to be attracted to someone. That is normal. Acting on that attraction is wrong, because you have committed yourself to your wife. It doesn't matter if she feels the same. You are married. If you want to pursue this woman, you need to get a divorce first.
2006-12-29 15:32:33 · answer #5 · answered by AK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LIKING someone is NOT a sin...I LIKE a lot of people my best friend is a married man and HE likes me as well. His WIFE likes me, I am their grand daughter's God Mother. LIKING someone as a friend and having a relationship/affair with them are two different things.
2006-12-29 15:57:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not, you should love your wife and remain faithfufl to her. This is the reason why people get married so that your one and only focus is your WIFE.
2006-12-29 15:40:53 · answer #7 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm.. if you are having emotional/physical feelings for someone other than your spouse, you need to check your marriage buddy. Thats not good.
2006-12-29 15:32:00 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs.Neville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's OK to like another person, it's NOT OK, when you act on it!!
2006-12-29 15:31:35 · answer #9 · answered by mamachula01 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think crushes are ok as long as you don't act on them.
2006-12-29 15:31:55 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋