We've lived together/dated for 2 years. Our lease expires next month and last night I told him it's best we don't live together. Today he asked why, and I told him I don't want to live like a married woman until he gives me a commitment (not even marriage, just engagement would be fine). He doesn't understand that guys do this to "get the milk for free" and says he's not one of them-he obviously is. He said "we can't afford to get married, or a mortgage on a house..I can't afford a ring unless you want it to be $60".. I said "who said anything about getting married right away OR a mortgage on a house??"
That was the summary of the convo and he stormed out of our bedroom and won't talk to me. That was at 3-4pm, now it's almost 11 and he has been distant all day.
2006-12-29 14:40:01 · 10 answers · asked by PlasticTrees 2 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
If it is a commitment you want, than don't feel guilty for what you want. If he really does love you, he will understand. If not, ditch him. There are plenty of really great guys out there who are wanting to commit and marry.
2006-12-29 14:45:10 · answer #1 · answered by jessieg63 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Seriously you guys(girls).
You are reading too far into this. You say he's using you as a sex toy from this? Get beyond the guys as pigs mind set.
Take it from me that if we have something perfectly set up and life is going ok, there is no reason to change it. Why get engaged if you're already living together and coexisting? Maybe he was waiting for the right time. I really would just renew the lease on the house or go rent more and maybe, just maybe you could break tradition and ask him to marry YOU. Explain to him that it doesn't involve much change at all and I bet you he'd warm up to it.
2006-12-29 15:57:43 · answer #2 · answered by Alex F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you nailed him on the game he has been running. He gave you a good reason to move along. Any man of any age can come up with a ring if they want to. But you didn't even ask for one. Get away from this useless guy. You can get your own mortgage if you want it. You need someone who can commit, and looks forward to a life together. Best of luck to you during this very emotional and stressful time.
2006-12-29 14:52:15 · answer #3 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Milk for unfastened - so which you have recieved no longer something out of the relationship variety the actual edge of issues. Hmm exciting, in simple terms pondering are you looking forward to cost of a committment interior the long-term? I hate to assert it expensive yet prostitutes additionally anticipate dedication from their clientele too - committment that the milk would be paid for. possibly you are able to desire to rephrase your question and take a seem at your expectation and the expectancies of your boyfriend. Hate to be cruel honey yet you are able to desire to seem at your love existence as being helpful for the two considered one of you or you will finally end up divorcing him interior the long-term given which you're actually not satisfied interior a marriage or the like. he's possibly distant simply by fact he's thinking appropriate to the destiny the pair of you've if ever you marry. He has invested a minimum of two years of his existence right into a relationship - he had made a committment to you and you threw it lower back in his face - if the shoe have been on the different foot with the objective to speak how might you experience interior the comparable difficulty.
2016-10-28 16:45:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's obviousy just using you as a sex toy. What do you see in him anyway, if he's so worthless as to not have any money to contribute to your relationship. You have to look at it as a business. How is your life going to be if he DOES buy a King Edward cigar band for your finger?
It's just as easy to find a b/f with money and something on the ball as it it to be with a deadbeat, which are less than a dime a dozen. This is a condrum that is replayed thousands of times a day.
ditch him!
2006-12-29 14:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by Dick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I admire you for telling him how you feel and what you want. If he doesn't want the same things you do, then you won't be happy together. As an "aside", I wonder if it's really the money he's worried about, or if he doesn't want committment for other reasons.
You were very fair. He's not being fair by pouting and refusing to communicate with you. Maybe he needs time to think about it.
But you should stick to your guns, if you've thought about it and are sure of your decision.
2006-12-29 14:53:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's marriage you want, two years is more than enough time. If you're not there, he will come to appreciate what he is missing, or you will find someone who can appreciate you. You did the right thing: you don't need a lot of money to get married.
2006-12-29 14:46:53 · answer #7 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he likes things status quo and you want some security. As for his reasons, they sound like they are excuses. have you ever had a discussion about marriage or engagement before?
you need to sit down with him and reasonably explain your reasons and also to listen to his reasons. he might hear you saying that you want marriage now, even if that is not what you meant.
2006-12-29 14:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if marriage is on your mind than u need to do u, by finding a man who's goals are more similiar to yours.
u don't need a huge wedding. the cheapest wedding band i seen was for $100 and a marriage license cost about $65.
2006-12-29 14:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by sheila, TTC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have other issues that are making you move out.
2006-12-29 14:48:18 · answer #10 · answered by art_tchr_phx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋