I am a good looking, successful male in great shape. She is also attractive but is very up tight sexually. My sex drive is the ying, and her's is the yang. Maybe this will kick start her drive.
2006-12-29 14:32:04 · 16 answers · asked by P K 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well, first of all, how sexual is she? Has she been willing to try different things in the past? If not, then try watching a mff video, or try talking about a friend doing something like that.
2006-12-29 14:57:56 · answer #1 · answered by renea 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well. i am also married and ive never thought of the whole mff thing as exciting, cause that would mean sharing my husband. NO Way...I think its a very touchy subject. Id say you should get her to open up sexually w/you first. Like try new things. How old is she? Has she had kids? What meds are she on? All these things can effect her sex drive. Including stress. Women usually hit their sexual peak later than men. I think around 40. Does she read romance novels, if not tell her to. They are awesome for starting someones sex drive. Trust me. Even though they are corny.
2006-12-30 00:45:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is uptight sexually then I seriously doudt she is going to go for a MFF. If this is something you really want, then maybe introduce her slowly into the idea. Maybe get a porno with just MFF and see how she reacts. I have a feeling the idea might backfire on you. I'm not uptight at all and if my husband asked me to do that for him I would tell him to go find someone else. I'm not down with sharing.
2006-12-29 22:37:38 · answer #3 · answered by Bilinda G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, this is from a guy, DON'T BRING ANYONE ELSE INTO YOUR BED!!!!
You married her, in the vows it says FORSAKING ALL OTHERS, meaning being faithful to her. If you bring another woman or another man into the picture, it's cheating, even if you both are for it, it's still cheating. Sex was created by God to be between a husband and wife, not a husband wife and another woman. Think of her and her feelings instead of what you want!!! Threesome's and swapping partners is no different than having an affair with another woman behind your wife's back.
If you push this with her, you could be opening the door to a divorce.
2006-12-29 22:43:06 · answer #4 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say that she is uptight sexually, but you want to bring another woman into the picture. Like that is going to make her comfortable. Come on! Yeah, it will kick start her drive right to an attorneys office. You need to find out why she is so uptight. Try some counseling together first! Good luck
2006-12-29 23:38:27 · answer #5 · answered by Debcee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think your wife is going to get a kick start by bringing in another woman you are out of your mind. Why don't you try being more romantic and make her feel like she is your one and only? Why not try running her a bubble bath with candles? Maybe you haven't been paying her enough attention and she doesn't feel attractive. Try fulfilling your wife's needs instead of your selfish self. Introduce her to the new you!!!!
2006-12-29 23:05:07 · answer #6 · answered by autumn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It won't kick start her drive, but it will drive her away from you. I know several couples who've tried this, and all are divorced now. Maybe you should look into what YOU'RE doing wrong instead of putting it all on her. If she's uptight, it's probably because you push these ideas on her without seeing what she would like to have done. You also seem to be more concerned with your own pleasure than hers.
2006-12-29 22:52:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is the problem with marriages today. The sacredness of them as become distinct. When there's a problem it's all about running from it instead of addressing it. Do you seriously think that bringing another women in the picture is going to Loosen her up. Why not just have a heart to heart. She should be the ONLY women you would want in your bed!!!!!!!
2006-12-29 22:41:48 · answer #8 · answered by Sharon H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, There is no good way.
If she is uptight, perhaps you should start with ideas that do NOT include other people to loosen her up first.
And perhaps a few sessions with a counselor concerning communication.
2006-12-29 22:37:02 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I assure you!!! It's not a good idea! If the women is not the one to come up with it, don't even mention it. She will wonder what is wrong with her that you need a third person, and even if she does go along with it, It will eventually ruin your relationship! Unless it's something she would be into, and you know this for sure, it's not a good idea.
2006-12-29 22:37:52 · answer #10 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋