2006-12-29 14:29:35 · 18 answers · asked by Ashley 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
My ex-boyfriend's new beau wants us all to have a threesome. Both my ex and his new boyfriend won't stop calling me. they've bugged me about this because the want me as a "New Years' Eve" treat and I politely said no once already - because I'm still carrying a torch for my ex. I want me and my ex to be friends, but not 'casual sex buddies'.
What should I do?
2006-12-29 14:34:21 · update #1
become less polite and tell them - i think you misunderstood our last conversation, i'm not playing hard to get, i honestly hv no interest in going out with you. altho i appreciate the attention, please stop, you're making it uncomfortable for me to be around you. its all good if you stop. thank you.
2006-12-29 14:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by bb 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you've already said no once politely, now is the time to stop being polite.
Memorize the following:
"Look (insertnamehere), I have to say, you are really creeping me out with this threesome thing. I have no interest in a threesome with you and your new boyfriend. None, nada, niente. And the fact that you are still pressing the issue is annoying and disrespectful. I wish you luck finding a third, but that person will never be me. If you want a friend, call me. If you want sex fun, try gay.com"
2006-12-29 15:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forget the pleasantries. It's time to stop being polite and to say "no" more forcibly. This one may interrupt your behavior as playful or coy. If you do not appreciate their forwardness and sexual advances, it is time to make it clear how you feel. Speak up. It will be awkward initially, but you will do the right thing in the end.
2006-12-29 14:32:56 · answer #3 · answered by NYCLibrarian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a general manner... No thanks, or any variation thereof. If it's a friend, or acquaintence... I'd rather not/I don't think it'd be right with an a deeper in-depth explanation to smooth things over and not leave any loose ends. It'll be uncomfortable, but you can work through it. All else fails a flat out "No" works well too. Don't be afraid to man-up.
2006-12-29 14:40:43 · answer #4 · answered by Sgt. Shifty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot depends on who and where it is taking place. But usually, the second time warrants being much more abrupt with your response. Not necessarily angry but very direct and to the point. Angry comes in after the 3rd time.
2006-12-29 14:32:22 · answer #5 · answered by kildarner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A baseball bat. To the shins.
Seriously, you shouldn't have to feel pressured into doing anything. Make sure that this person knows your intentions and if they don't listen and blatantly disregards your wishes...stay away from this person, they aren't worth your time. AND..if they continue to do so and threatens you in any way, please contact someone like the police that can help you.
2006-12-29 14:36:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to know some real Christain guys,
go to mens group at a church
call out the Lover of your heart and soul
then you won't have these guys hitting on you
2006-12-29 14:37:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Politely tell them again, and if they still don't get it, hold up a sign that says "NO" every time they are around. They'll stop.
2006-12-29 14:32:09 · answer #8 · answered by tranquility_base3@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make yourself unavailable to that person. Do not give them the opportunity for anything other than social interaction.
2006-12-29 14:31:20 · answer #9 · answered by Pamela V 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer: No thank you. NO! Hell no! I said NO! Stop bugging me, get out. Oh ya, wait a minute......NO! Now get out.
2006-12-29 15:18:58 · answer #10 · answered by older, not wiser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋