O.k. this might be obvious but like they say love is blind. Going on 10 years next month and we have two small boys. She drives the school bus and works in the kitchen at the school. She takes field trips for the sporting events sometimes staying in hotels on over night trips. She developed a relationship with a junior high teacher who is also the football coach. She told me they are just friends and he is like a brother. She told me he is ugly so I believed her. This fall she had to take every football field trip I was curious but very blind as to what might be going on. She called me about midnight last week in the bus and asked if she could stay at the sports directors house who is a women. The school is about 30 minutes away and she said she was very tired. Being asleep when I answered the phone I said no problem. Now I found out that she stayed at the coaches house who happens to be single and her age. She swears she stayed in his guest bedroom. what do you think? is she lying?
2006-12-29 14:21:02 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can't say that she's lying but it seems very questionable
2006-12-29 14:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but I think your wife is cheating. When she called and asked if she could stay at the director's house, which was a woman, you said ok. But then she ends up at the coaches house insead. That's lie number 1. If she lied to you about where she stayed, why would she tell you the truth about where she slept? I would have a real serious talk with her. Don't accuse her, but talk with her. Then let her know you might just have to pay this coach a visit. If she really loves you and has any respect for you, she will cease that relationship with the coach. Also, you might want to give her a little more attention, too, so she has no reason to go wandering off with anyone else.
2006-12-29 14:39:10 · answer #2 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a good possibility that she is cheating on you. First, she lied about where she was spending the night. That should have been a red flag for you. I would wait for a few more clues and then seriously confront her. If she keeps denying and the stories don't add up or make sense, then I would worry. If your wife is suddenly doing odd things that she never did before and always seems to have an excuse or reason, then be careful. Also, not coming home at all might be a good sign. Good luck and if it's true that's she's cheating, I hope you two can work it out or something.......Sorry....
2006-12-29 14:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by artutina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I believe she is lying. How is it that it was a woman at first then she ends up at the coaches house. At that rate she should have called you back and said one of these two things. "Honey, come pick me up because I'm tired and plans have changed or Sweetie, is it okay to sleep at the coaches house in the guest room. But she didn't so you do the math.
2006-12-29 14:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're in trouble my man. As a woman I can tell you that I only lied to my husband when I was doing something destructive to our relationship. Your wife may or may not be having a sexual affair, but she it appears as if she is having an affair of the heart with this coach. the lying alone is the major red flag. you have every right to ask her to NEVER do anything with the coach again.
2006-12-29 14:27:22 · answer #5 · answered by The Dancer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you do love your wife but suspected that she has been cheating on you. Do you really want to know the truth? More importantly, could you deal with the truth? If you do, have a heart to heart talk with her to find it out. Being suspicious is never good in any relationship, which is supposed to be built on trust. So, tell your wife of your suspicions and the truth will likely be out. But you will have to deal with the truth though. All the best!
2006-12-29 14:43:38 · answer #6 · answered by Alfretz T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody here knows her as you do. I think you already know the answer be it yes or no. Trust in freedom is a wonderful thing and necessary in a successful marriage, but when doubts such as yours arise it may be time to re-evaluate your marital status. You really need to have a heart to heart discussion on this topic with your wife.
2006-12-29 14:28:01 · answer #7 · answered by Decoy Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes honey, I think she is lying. Call her on it. She should not be staying out all night like this...ask her why she is letting go of her marriage and ask her if it is too late to change the problem.
Sorry to hear this, hope you can tell her you know.
All the best
2006-12-29 14:25:26 · answer #8 · answered by Marmitemonster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is having an affair, but you do know her better than anyone answering your question. Go with what your heart feels. Ask her, if she did , you two need to decide if your marriage is wroth keeping. 10 years is alot to throw away, even for her.
2006-12-29 14:41:08 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh it doesn't look good. But you never know, it really could be innocent but just look bad. But at the same time, why did she lie about where she stayed? If it really was in the guest room, then she should have told you. It really looks bad.
2006-12-29 14:29:27 · answer #10 · answered by Jacki T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something fishy is defenitely going on. Ask yourself these kinds of questions, has your wife been acting overly affectionate, like she has something to hide? Or has your wife been ignoring you and not wanting to be intimate? If yes to any of those questions, i'd say you have to do alot more investigating. Personally, i think she's lying.
2006-12-29 14:25:59 · answer #11 · answered by Lady C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋