My ex-husband just called me after 10 years of divorce to ask me to go out to dinner? He then thanked me for taking such great care of the kids, and said in all of the years we've been apart he has never had such a wonderful woman in his life.
Was this a come-on? Or just a make amends gesture? I would think he would have invited the kids if he wanted amends, am I right? My kids are 14, and twins that are 20. I would be interested in making amends and let bygones be bygones, but after 10 years, I am not interested in a date with him.
2006-12-29 14:19:18 · 15 answers · asked by sheristeele 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did tell him that it would depend on whether it was a romantic dinner or not, and told him I was in a very good relationship now. He acted as though he was ignoring it.
2006-12-29 14:30:09 · update #1
he is looking back on life since the divorce, and has come to the conclusion he should have stayed married to u, as u were the best he ever had. so he now realizes he made a terrible mistake, since he did not invite the kid's he intended it to be a romantic get together, unfortunately time moves on, it waits for no one, and his amends is 10 years too late.
2006-12-30 00:59:46 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you answered your own question.He wants a date with you and he has complimented you on a great job with the kids.Take the compliment for what it is and be proud.If you feel like going out as friends and to make amends then do just that and enjoy it.If he should want the evening to progress into something more than a date just follow your own judgment.You know this person better than anyone else.
2006-12-29 14:35:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha,sending you back may be the least of his concerns as with a 10 3 hundred and sixty 5 days eco-friendly card that's impossible at this factor,he could be greater desirous approximately alimony & the Affidavit of help that he signed that announces he should assist you for the subsequent 10 years or till you adjust right into a US citizen. point out those issues & he will in all possibility be very quiet.
2016-10-06 04:49:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We're in the same boat. My husband whom I've been separated with for 15 years wants to meet my children and myself on my daughter's graduation. At first I am hesitant, but then, on second thoughts, I wanted my children to be happy even for this one special occasion. We know not what tomorrow may bring, who can tell? Perhaps this will be the last time we'll see each other, I guessed. Talking about interests, not a single hint.
2006-12-29 14:42:13 · answer #4 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go girl!!! Sux to be him. It took him a long enough time to realize that the grass isnt always greener on the other side. Stick to your guns and say thanks for the invite, but you would perfer not to. He knows you are the best that has ever happened to him. He may be sincere but like the ole saying goes To little too late". Best wishes to you
2006-12-29 14:32:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really do think that he just wants to make amends. Maybe ask what has been going on lately in his life and straightup why he wants to see you after so long.
2006-12-29 14:29:25 · answer #6 · answered by Lady C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him thank you for the kind words but dinner would not be an option since it would be disrespectful to the person you are with.
2006-12-29 14:33:51 · answer #7 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may just be reminiscing, or he may be looking for someone familiar for "comfort". After 10 years, don't go for it. Tell him, sure you'd like to have an amicable situation, but it is all platonic.
2006-12-29 14:23:16 · answer #8 · answered by from HJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, you owe him nothing so if you don't want to go say no. Why in the hell would you want to rekindle something gone bad. As for the kids I wouldn't even mention it. Are you kidding or what?
2006-12-29 14:53:48 · answer #9 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he missed you, then he would of called sooner. Honey....BOOTY CALL! If you're not intrested than don't go. He doesn't control your life. If you are into another man than stick to him! Don't let him all of a sudden come barging in your life. He would of called sooner if he cared. Boys.....*sighs*
2006-12-29 15:02:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋