my gf had a relation when she was 16 and it was her cousin. after 3 years she broke up when she knew that they were doing wrong. now she is 21 and we are in relationship for 6 months.she promised me that he is outta her life and they never talked after that.but last week, they started talking again as she says that now she thinks him as cousin only. but i dont like this guy becos i think he was trying to take advantage over her when she was immatured and i want her to keep him away from our life. we had a fight regarding this. and both of us are hurt and having some clouds between us. i would like to hear what you people say. i know that she is loving me only. but can't see him as her cousin, but her guileful ex. Is it my problem? i dont wanna lose her.
2006-12-29 13:57:06 · 9 answers · asked by idlewild 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you want any kind of relationship with her ,you better back off, you eighter trust her or not.....I have been there ,.. I hope for your sake , you take this advice...Look I came back to tell you that I just read the other answers AND she is not sick ,,you said that when she relized what was up she called it quits that 's good enough for me. sometimes SH_T happens that does not make her a bad person...IT'S OVER TRUST HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!.
2006-12-29 14:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by shelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Complications are bound to occur in any relationship. I think she may need sometime to get herself together she has to have some type of issue with the fact she had a relationship with a relative. Me personally if I found out I was dating a dude and his ex is now hooked up with one of my brothers That would through me off something so simple. But maybe you should give her sometime I am not saying break up with her, but be there for her (don't let her use u though) be open with her and don't judge her. Not yet at least.
2006-12-29 22:07:45 · answer #2 · answered by Shyne 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give her one chance. If she cheats with her cousin, leave her alone. I can't understand how that would happen in the first place but regardless, you cannot keep her from her family no matter what happened between them. If something happens with them, drop her no question. Good luck.
2006-12-29 22:00:48 · answer #3 · answered by Venessa B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She has to understand how you feel and if she don't want to stay away from him that means she stell has feelings for him even if the are cousin. Sorry.
2006-12-29 22:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by Kyra G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sweetie, SHE needs to hear this.
explain that, even though they're cousins, you trusy her, but you see him more as an EX than anything else. don't focus on the fact you were disgusted with him, but simply concerned.
the most you can really do is suck it up and support her. =/
on a side note, yes, it sucks, but they are cousins.
PS: EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!
2006-12-29 22:00:11 · answer #5 · answered by Mandee 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow crazy. just do the right thing. try to compromise wit her. ya maybe they shouldn't be hangin round eachother tho cuz they did do the nasty in the past. how would she like it if u used to do ur sister or somethin then still had her comin round right?
2006-12-29 22:01:52 · answer #6 · answered by kimmycat 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think u r kinda jealous...but that's normal, don't worry ~ i know how u fell ......no 1 want to lose some1 tah they really like.But think back, if she really likes u, u only like u, no matter who got in2 her life/ur life......she wont leave u, cause she the 1 who love u the most.......
2006-12-29 22:06:38 · answer #7 · answered by cinnamoroll 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u have got to be kiddin. if u r serious yer g/f needs therapy, u have every right to not want him around.
2006-12-29 22:03:38 · answer #8 · answered by J-bean 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tough one, but you are right, she is not to communicate with that sicko.
2006-12-29 22:02:06 · answer #9 · answered by thekidalvaro 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋