32 and still haunted by bullies?

Question

i am 32 and was bullied at school for being ugly small and smelly! now school was such a long time ago and i am still paranoid that people talk about me. I have had varying degrees of sucsess, and had varying degrees of happiness, but i live with such a hate for myself that is covered up with flase confidence. I have had beutiful girlfriends, and great friends, but i cant stop being paraniod, is there any way to stop this? Thanks

Answer 1

Stop trashing yourself, you sound like good hearted, thinking person.
Don't second guess yourself, you've been around long enough to know how this thing called life works.
So stop trying to re-invent your wheel, and help people finish theirs.
Focus more on others.
Theirs nothing really wrong.

Answer 2

Who are these bullies your co workers? maybe some events that happen today remind you of the past people have grown up bullies are now dickheads and losers just lighten up and laugh about the past. Its OK To hate or be embarrassed about it but do you still live in the same city your older now and I hope you don't smell if your small oh well your 32 now so you have used your head for success only be confident about your skills and achievements forget the past focus on the now if you worry about the future the now has no relevance.

Answer 3

Yes Rich, you can stop this. School was a long time ago and you are wasting energy focusing on the past. These people have no control over you. You are choosing to be paranoid over the opinions of immature school kids. Focus on the present and give yourself a pat on the back for your successes. Good luck.

Answer 4

Leave that in the past where it belongs. You need to move on and realize your a grown man now. You don't have time for that crap anymore. Like you said you're successful and have great friends and companions. So you can't be that bad right? Come on, cheer up man! Your better then that. Don't put yourself down just because other people had to in order to make themselves feel better.

Happy New Year! :o)

Answer 5

i am still haunted by my past, so i feel u. till this day i feel like people think i am simple minded and naive. i can almost hear my coworkers talking about me exactly the same way my exclassmates did to me. i wasn't small and smelly. i was tall,skinny,the only minority girl in the whole class, i wore three pigtails and my hair was so coarse. the kids made fun of me and called me nappy.i was also incredibly clumsy, absent minded, and goofy.

i wish i could afford therapy. the way i deal with is by reminding myself that the worst part is over. i look at all my good qualities. if u are religious it may help to remember that we were all made in His image. i pray alot. u need to keep strong otherwise bullies in the adult world may pick up on it and harrass u again.

Answer 6

Yes I had the same problem Read The Journey By Brandon Bays it is the process to getting to the root of our fears, anger, insecurities, etc. It is an easy process. Also read Bhagavad Gita as it is By Bhaktivedanta Prabhupada Teaches us about our spiritual identity beyond this body and mind. go to krishnaculture. for details. We have to go beyond this bodily conception of life to really be happy also go to stephen-knapp. for e-book The key to real Happiness. Hope this all helps. It helped me unlimitedly.

Answer 7

well find out waht really makes you fel self concious because there has to be somethign specific.. try to meet those bullys and although hard try to make them feel bad and see how much above them you are.. good luck
if nothign works there is always the doc

Answer 8

I feel bad for you having to go through that. I suggest that personal counselling might be the best option.

Answer 9

yea, screw the rest of the world, there always gonna talk about something or someone, makes them look better.....

Answer 10

use ty-quan-do or nin-jutsu or karate