Well my boyfriend and I absolutely love each other... with every ounce of our souls. He is everything I have every wanted.. and he says the same. He is far away. Im all the way in Las Vegas.... with my moomy and brother. His parents live here as well. He is all the way in Washington DC.. because of the Navy. For both of us being apart has made us realize how much we love each other and want to be with each other. We were already separated wen he was in California for his MOS school. He came back for two weeks and it was the greatest time in my life... When he left it was the worst feeling ever.. however i looked at it as a blessin from god because bein apart will only make us stronger.. and it has. I love himm.. and ALL of him. even the bad. even the imperfections b/c noone is perfect. We have talked about gettin married.. and we kno we want to be together forever... and I really want to ask him to marry me.. but thats not tradition.. does it make a difference..?
2006-12-29 12:24:44 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes.
2006-12-29 12:26:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you've discussed marriage...but if you marry, will you go with him wherever he's deployed? What's the rush? If you're in love, you can go to college, he can get a career rolling in the Navy, and when you are both done, you can marry and really start life right. Marrying now with the up and downs of him coming home and leaving is very not real life. You can ask him to marry you and have a long engagement or ask him to marry you and follow him around the world...or wait and do it without all the drama and turmoil of him getting deployed. It really is an individual decision. Best of luck.
2006-12-29 12:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you have to know that he is ready for the commitment. If it is just a matter of him being too nervous to ask (as was the case with me before I gathered the courage to ask my wife), then go ahead.
Nine times out of ten, here is what will happen: he will say no or delay the issue. He will then "pop the question" in his own time (which will not be very long).
The tenth time, he will probably freak out for a while until he sorts out his own feelings on the issue. Then it can go either way.
The most important thing is to be sure that he is ready for it before you say it.
In short, no there is absolutely nothing wrong with the woman asking the man.
2006-12-29 12:58:50 · answer #3 · answered by rawson_wayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but remember that the very love at first or love when you both are away are always great - one day when you are always be with, you will feel the tireness sometime, so it is better not to rush and not to break the tradition. For sure, he can wait if he truely loves you. Don't you ever see a story in a movie in which a man from another world says I indeed love you, and apart from that he is with another gird whist talking to you?
2006-12-29 12:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by Kethya Chin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 04:43:16 · answer #5 · answered by matlock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it makes a great deal of difference you're obviously not old enough to get married. You may be a female but you are far from being a woman. I suggest you grow up before you start playing house with a adult male.
2006-12-29 18:23:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally, it's okay for a woman to ask the man to marry her It still depends, however, on the community culture. It could be a good and appropriate way for the girl to ask her boyfriend a question like this: "Will you not ask me to marry you?" Or, "When will you ask me to marry you?" Better still, perhaps, is for the woman to ask the man about his plans about marriage.
2006-12-29 12:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by Neong 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..... I think that , it is FINE for a women to ask a man it shouldn't matter who asks it is how u both feel about eachother and if the time is right, but also if u ask it might ruin that moment that he is waiting for ....(to ask U) ...so u can look at it eather way ....I would just follow your Heart ...go with the flow ....if u want to marry him GO FOR IT, ASK AWAY!!!.....
2006-12-29 12:32:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and ask him. Or next time you guys talk about it say something like.......why don't we just do it now?
Tradition isn't as much as it used to be in the past. Travel to the beat of your own drum
2006-12-29 12:28:30 · answer #9 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should, but do it in a cute way so that you don't make your boyfriend feel less of a man because you asked him. Just tell him something like, "Will you ask me to marry you?" or something like that.
2006-12-29 12:29:59 · answer #10 · answered by The Pretty One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tradition is for the guy to ask the girl to marry him. But haven't you heard of girls asking guys to marry them instead? This has been going on for years now!!! It's not weird at all for you to ask.
2006-12-29 12:29:00 · answer #11 · answered by funkychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋