My daughter has a 9 week old baby?

Question

and she wont listen to any advice I give her. I dont trry to tell her how to bring him up, but now shes started to give him rusks mixed with milk as she says the bottles aren't filling him. I have advised her againgt doing this, but she still insists. Hes only just turned 9 weeks . Any advice?

btw rusks are cereal biscuits. AND NO MORE SILLY ANSWERS PLZ.

btw rusks are cereal biscuits. I want to know if it is safe, I know it was advised against when she was a baby.

Answer 1

Bad, bad, bad. If she won't listen to you, she needs to talk with the doc. He is too young for that. He could aspirate.

Answer 2

Being a new mother myself I know how she feels about getting advice from other people. Maybe soon she will realize that giving a 9 week old milk is not the best thing..especially for the digestive system. I am 23 years old and have been getting "feeding advice" from my 93 year old gram. Trust me that's been tough, because I have pretty much done everything by the book. Also, maybe if you mention giving the baby milk isn't the same as formula and breast milk, due to the vitamins/minerals and all that stuff she will listen more. If not then she will have to learn the hard way, and have an upset baby. Either way if she wants somebody to talk to or anything just let me know..my son is 11 months and I know how she feels. [e-mail]

Answer 3

I would say that you can try talking to her again, but it sounds like her mind is made up. By the way what is rusks? You could have a dr friend talk to her and let her know that it is bad to add anything to a bottle no matter what the age. If he is not getting full she needs to feed him more often. Babies go through growth spurts and eat more almost every three weeks or so. That is jsut part of it. Good luck.

Answer 4

Back off and leave the poor girl alone. From your "she wont listen to any advice I give her", it sounds like you're the one being bullheaded. You are the grandparent now, NOT the parent. You are no longer in charge.

Don't you remember at all how scared and insecure you were when you first became a parent? Did you have someone hanging over your every decision, criticizing it, and putting your every decision down? If you did, how did it make you feel? Did it help you feel confident in your ability to take on the new challenge of motherhood or did it make you want to give up on the whole enterprise? If you didnt, be thankful. You were allowed to grow as a mother before anyone could jump on top of you and tell you that you were doing it wrong.

I could see getting in the middle of the issue if your daughter was abusing the child or causing the child imminent harm, but thickening the babies milk does not qualify. Though not recommended nowadays, doctors used to recommend it. So the idea isn't completely out to lunch, just a little outdated.

Express your opinion, THEN SHUT UP. I guarantee your daughter isn't going to completely disregard your advice even if she won't admit it to your face. But, you have to back off and respect her role as mother. The decision is HERS not yours anymore. If you don't respect her as a mother, why should she respect you as one?

Answer 5

Your daughter is probably fighting you every step of the way because perhaps she feels your being to pushy with her, step back and give her some space.
Now as for feeding at 9 weeks...
My eldest daughter who is 10 and I might add is perfectly healthy, and has always been so, I started her on solids at 8 weeks of age with no ill effects, I say solids, but it was a cereal called farex mixed with her milk, it would just make the milk a little more filling, and slowly after 10 weeks I introduced the same cereal in a bowl, very very sloppy, and not huge amounts at feed time, just enough to top her up and keep her tummy happy for longer.

My second baby who is now 10 months old was a big baby and she needed more than formula was giving her so she started the same way at 8 weeks of age and she has never looked back.

Im expecting twins now, and depending if they need it they will get the same as the first two did, but only if I think they need it. Its pointless giving them solids at an early age if they are doing fine just on milk.

Now I will probably get the thumbs down for this answer, but you wanted answers, I figured I would tell it how it was for me and my kids. What works for one wont always work for another.

Answer 6

it is not safe to give rusk biscuits to baby this young. she is causing harm to her own baby by doing this.

atleast ask her to get infant safe rice cereal to mix with formula and give.

yes you need to stop her from damaging her baby's digestive system. babies need milk or food that is safe for them and not food meant for adults.

since this is in the best interest of an innocent baby although your daughter is the mother, you are doing the right thing by interfering. please talk to her pedeatrician.. may be the doctor can say things that will make sense to her.

i hope she is not feeding any other unsafe food.

i am hoping that the poor baby gets good nourishment.

Answer 7

Congratulations, Grandma!
Is she adding that according to a pediatrician's advice? Many doctors still support that to help the child sleep through the night even though that it is only a myth that has been proven by some and busted by others. Don't worry mom, you had your chance to raise your child and now it is her turn. You can only guide her because you cannot force her to take your advice- no matter how right you are. Just be there for when she needs you.

Answer 8

My daughter did that till she grow to be 12 weeks old. She had to be switched to soy formulation. After like 2 nights she grow to be greater effective. Now she's 6 a million/2 months and lots happier. i'm beneficial you endure in innovations the 1st 12 weeks are the toughest. :) solid success!!

Answer 9

His digestive system isn't ready for rusks. But she sounds a bit big headed about it. Print off some things found online about what to feed baby and when or have her speak with her dr about it.

Answer 10

First of all, depending on your Daughter's age..... It sound more like she is out to prove you wrong. No matter what you say she is going to do the opposite. If you are that concerned you need to do the "Tough Love" part of being a parent and say something to her baby's PED. Or when something serious does happen, cause obviously she's NOT listening. Just say I told you so.

It sound more like you just need to not say nothing and let her make her own mistakes. If she comes to you for help, give her the cold shoulder.. She'll beg you for help if she is concerned herself.

My cousin is the same way, but a little worse. My aunt had to go farther and turn my cousin into SRS and have her baby jerked. My cousin shouldn't of NEVER had a kid. She was a poor example of a mother. It was hard for my Aunt to do it to. But, she had to do what she had to do to save that baby.

Good luck!!

Answer 11

I guess it depends on how old your daughter is. If she is an adult, you need to let her do it and figure it out for herself. If she is a teenager, then you need to step in and help out. I would ask her how she knows that the baby isn't full on milk, then ask her to call her family doctor to ask for advice (she might listen if it doesn't come directly from you). Good luck!