ok, heres the situation...ex and i broke up 5 mths ago, still hang out very frequently and do "other" things (lol), we exchanged gifts, i only expected something little, but he buys be over $150 worth of stuff. wine, candles, towels, pillow, lamp, etc......he still says he doesn't want me back, even after i beg for him..... is this a big mind game???
2006-12-29 12:17:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hello,
I am not sure if this is a big mind game or not but what I do feel about this situation from your details is that this X of yours isn't as over you as he say. Why on earth would he purchase so many things if he didn't care for you still ?
You know I wouldn't doubt it if he is in agony wanting you back but just to bullheaded to admit it!
Nevertheless enjoy each others company it may be that you two are better off as friends with benefits than husband and wife for now anyway.
Just have fun... you sound very smart so I'm sure in the long run if it is a mind game you'll be telling him hate the game but not the player!(that's not saying your mean, but just that you were on to him all along..lol)
Happy New Year!!
2006-12-29 12:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by ssgtmommy01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say this, but it would seem that you are a pawn in his chess game of life. It would seem to me that he enjoys seeing you beg for him back. Everything that he bought for you would seem like he's teasing you. If he doesn't want you back, then why buy all of the romatic items that a woman likes.........My ex is the biggest mind player and I still fall for it every single time and then kick myself each time I am sitting at home alone, only I don't want him back. You are not alone and you never will be...............just be strong and eventually when you don't fall into his games, he will start to come after you and you will have the upperhand in this. Good luck!
2006-12-29 20:41:52 · answer #2 · answered by zccooper4243 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am no fan of letting others think I have to operate on their time. That is unless I am the one who really caused the problem, in which case I allow for more time and so forth.
Now, what you might wish to consider, provided that you are not the one who goofed up, is make is plain to him that he does not have all the time in the world to consider this. You might also explain to him that you are taking what he says to be what he means and prepared to take the course that you need to take, since he feels this way
If he goofed up, then it is just him trying to play head games and using you for as long and as much as he can, until something more entertaining or enjoyable comes along..
2006-12-29 20:39:44 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are stupid, I believe it's some kind of game. Maybe you shouldn't act like you want him and see what he does then. Act as if all of a sudden you're too busy to hang out with him. If he still wants to court you then you know at least he has some feelings.
2006-12-29 20:37:53 · answer #4 · answered by Vix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a big mind game; you're giving him sex - if course he's still hanging around.
2006-12-29 20:27:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he need a "real relationship" with you, when you give it up to him and spend time with him, and have all sorts of fun? If you had a real relationship, you would have expectations and he obviously doesn't want that.
2006-12-29 20:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
partly, yes. some men don't want to have you, but don't want you with anyone else either. why are you wasting your time with a guy that doesn't want to be with you? be his friend and that's it. you are giving him all the benefits of being his girlfriend without the commitment or the title.
2006-12-29 20:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
CUT HIM OFF! No sex! Why is it women these days throw their bodies around with such little dignity? Respect yourself and your body. If he's not going to commit to you, why should you commit your body?
2006-12-29 20:21:53 · answer #8 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants sex, and you need to have some respect for yourself and quit spreadin it for a man who doesnt want you back.
2006-12-29 20:19:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. You're his booty call. The presents are just to insure that you'll still give it up whenever he wants.
2006-12-29 20:22:09 · answer #10 · answered by water.bratz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋