been going with my bf for 5 yrs and just got engaged.the problem is his exwife jo.she still loves him and will not leave us or his family alone.they have a 8 yr old son tom and jo uses him like bait to get into family functions and to contact my bf daily.she calls him for EVERYTHING, from tom stubbing his to toe to his last bowel movement(not kidding)which then leads into a 15-20 min conversation about other things.this would not bother me much if she was not such a ***** to me.she always trys to undermind me to my inlaws,and has made it very clear she wants me to have nothing to do with her son.my bf will not say anything to her period as he said he wants to take the high road with her for tom's sake and has told me if i don't like it get out.they have joint custody so she can't deny him visatation rights.he said i don't have a child so i won't understand his reasoning.i just feel she is controlling him thru tom and to involved in our lives.i have to live with it or get out am i wrong
2006-12-29 11:42:21 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
one last thing he did not leave her for me i met him after he left her
2006-12-29 11:42:54 · update #1
She has a child by him and them having joint custody... they are always going to talk even daily... Most men won't stand up to there exs... So your fiance telling you that if you can't deal with it get out is a red flag... his son and the relationship with his sons mother is more important than you... I am not saying hes right... but you are in for a miserable life with someone that not even going to try to look at things from your point of view... I know its hard for you to attend family functions with her there... but I bet 5 years from know it will all still be going on... sorry if I could give you mich hope... I know you have spoke with you bf... all you can do is love him or leave him... good luck!!!!
2006-12-29 11:56:52 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I think the best way 2 get his ex. 2 back off is 2 learn 2 like her and maybe she'll lay off a little more
2006-12-29 11:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like reba.
well....i would talk to your bf about it.
shes a ***** and needs to leave you alone about the little things.
you should live with it.
make her realize hes yours.
2006-12-29 11:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋