I m with my husband for 1 year and i m very depressed cause i realized he s a very selfish arrogant person...sometimes i even hate him.He does not understand me and he never hepls me in the house...he sits and look at me working at home after my 8/9 h. of work at the airport. His mother is a good friend of me and she told me she has been depressed and stressed for 10 year(she was also taking prozac for 10 years) and my husband never realized that...i had to tell him about it.How is it possible he did not even notice that his mother was sick?
I m scared of the person he is and i m very confused...what can i do? I often think to move back to Europe(i m from there) and leave him alone in US. What can i do for my life?
2006-12-29 11:24:34 · 15 answers · asked by manolaxox 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you need to leave him if you are unhappy and he seems to only think about himself why stay in a relationship like this. All that is going to do is make you even more depressed than you are now.
You need to do what makes you happy .
2006-12-29 11:27:59 · answer #1 · answered by Amazing_clarity 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Despite stupid answers like the first one, remember this, you married him for better/worse, richer/poorer, sickness/health. Now, I wont say that he is correct in acting the way he is, yet I will also say that you opted into marriage freely. There may be some things that he hates about you, how you do them, etc.
All this, do whatever feels good crap is what is wrong now. Suppose that him peaing in the floor made him happy. Would it be okay with you, if it is all about being happy.
To tell you the truth, I have no idea where all this I HAVE A RIGHT TO BE HAPPY crap came from, but it is a big lie. Most of life is nothing more then doing what we are suppose to do, what we commited to doing and trying to make the best of it and doing right on our part, even when it sucks. Sorry, but that is it and no amount of being told otherwise will change that. And just in case you are wondering, I have the same things to say when it is men that are mad or unhappy, so dont think it just applies one way.
2006-12-29 11:34:51 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You may want to ask yourself if you still want to be with this man. If you do, tell him how you feel about the fact that he does not notice anything around him or does not help out at home. Some people are just not in-tune with their surroundings including the people they love. You could also suggest counseling if he wants to save the relationship. If this does not work, you might think about a trial separation.
I am not in your situation and do not know all the details, but often times a little communication goes a long way. Your husband may be oblivious to how you are feeling. Best of luck!
2006-12-29 11:30:59 · answer #3 · answered by blue_seahorse 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i do not understand in the journey that your husband is being selfish. you're nevertheless youthful and there remains time, I recommend you adult men are married. He might want to desire you to artwork for a lengthy time period to ascertain the way you want it, get your ft moist sort of communicate earlier you're gentle sufficient to have a toddler and financially strong. you likely can shuttle even as being pregnant. i do not see shuttle and being pregnant as an challenge, inspite of the indisputable fact that it relies upon on the kind of being pregnant you've. I traveled to the States in my first 2 months of being pregnant and did not savour it, all i needed to do change into sleep contained in the motel room. I felt ill daily, it would want to come and bypass throughout the day. So, there is no ascertain that travelling even as pregnant will be relaxing for you and your better 0.5. it truly is something you both favor to communicate. If he says not now. Ask him to placed a time decrease on it. as long as you do not ignore that he does in truth desire little ones, then you truthfully are ok. i understand it truly is demanding in case you want them now. I had my first at 29. i imagine it change right into a strong age. area of me might want to have loved them starting up at 27 or 28, inspite of the indisputable fact that it truly is what it truly is.
2016-12-01 07:48:23 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Selfish and arrogant people think and act like the world revolves around them. He's the reason his mother probably takes prozac. Leave and don't end up like her.
2006-12-29 12:05:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, and foremost, do not get pregnant. Second, get out of there. Third, learn from this and know who you're marrying.
Sorry your husband is not who you thought he was. Go to school. Get a career. Be the wonderful person you sound like you are. Get rid of the jerk and move up and on. Best of luck.
2006-12-29 11:29:07 · answer #6 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Life is short. Ask him to go to a marriage counselor with you. If he doesn't change, then leave before you have children in the mix.
2006-12-29 11:29:25 · answer #7 · answered by steffers4979 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should think about leaving him he sounds very insensitive you can do much better. But unless your sure you don't love him anymore you should try marriage counsel
2006-12-29 12:19:53 · answer #8 · answered by nobody 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you know the ol' saying "The way a guy treats his mother is the way he'll treat you". So, start packing.
2006-12-29 11:38:49 · answer #9 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him how you are feeling. Some things that are obvious to women are not to men.
2006-12-29 12:28:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋