I have no life & not many friends, please help?

Question

hello, im 17, and well i just discorvered that i have no life; i always kinda knew it but i never rly paid attetion to it, i normally im in the pc playing a game or listening to music, it eats time out of the day but i know i hate it deep inside me, now i just wanna stop, but theres another thing, i dont have that many friends to go out, i used to but they all moved out, and im kinda shy to girls too, but all this is becoming really anoying and i wanna put a stop to it, my also have a 19yr old sister that goes out every weekend and has many many friends, and i always ask myself "why cant i"....i dont know whats wrong with me, i need help

please

Answer 1

lol.... I'm homeschooled. This also used to frustrate me sooo much!

And then...... I got a car.

Haha, actually, cars do help! But anyways, I would say... focus on improoving yourself (not your looks or anything, I mean deeper. Inside that shell). Look for a job and start working hard! I got a babysitting job at 5:30 in the morning, and boy! It's made me get up earlier, stop procrastinating, and.... I must say, I definetly have some moolah! Focus on your talents and developing them. Don't think about your yucky life now, think about an awesome future! Also, try on some sports for a change! Playing basketball really helped my social life that I was missing by being a homeschooler. And plus, now I can run a mile without feeling winded!

Work on yourself, prepare for the future, and have fun on the way by maintaining friendships. That's all there is to it!

Answer 2

I don't know what you mean by life. It seems to me as if you're just really frustrated about something and instead of doing something about it your trashing yourself.
What do you want to be doing right now, besides making out with lindsay lohan?
You only have a few options to putting together what would feel like a real life, that's to get involved in extracurricular activities or get a job.
Other than that you're fine. I know guys who did what you're doing all the way through college. Some of them are still doing it.
If you feel like nothings happening, get on the phone, call a cousin, a brother, a sister, an uncle. Go to a movie and chill.
Or not.
You'll be fine.

Answer 3

Renato, I went through the same thing when I was your age. And So did my husband. I suggest you try to join a group in school or at a rec center. Get involved with the community, get involved with a sport, get a hobby (Make pottery or collecting something). Its important that you go out and DO something. Don't feel that you are not good enough to have friends. But you do have to go out and participate in some type of activity in order to meet other people. Ask your sister if she knows of any friends of hers that would want to hang out. Or ask if you guys could so something fun together with her friends, like rollerskate or go to an arcade.Most important, up your confidence. Perhaps take up a sport like jogging and stick to it. Be committed to something that you will enjoy. Even Karate would be great for you. You'll meet lots of people there!

Answer 4

Hey you're only 17 it's o.k. Get a job at McDonalds on the weekends and in the evenings during the week. It's the same thing as "eating time" only you get paid for it, and you might make some good friends out of your coworkers. Then they will start asking you to do things with them.

Answer 5

Well, for one. Get away from your computer and games and get out into the worls. You could start with a job. Not because I think you are lazy and need to work, but because it is a great way to meet people and interact, if you get that kind of job. Being sociable sometimes takes practice. Many people who haven't socialized as much as they usually did before find it difficult untill they get back into it. Kind of like when a married person loses his or her spouse. They find it hard to date again, sometimes, because it has been a long time (assuming they have had enough time to deal with their loss and move on). Anyway, start small and work yourself into feeling comfortable. One other thing, if you are not comfortable with yourself, you can't really be comfortable with other people. I can almost gaurantee you that you are your harshest critic. Good luck, and get out there.

Answer 6

the biggest thing to do is just to not be shy. i used to be the same way. even though i am still a big gamer, im not as obsessed as i was. you just need to start talking to people. im sure there are a lot of other people out there that share the same interests. i am also very shy of girls too, but when i approach one, i try to treat them like i would to any other friend. the biggest thing is you cant be afraid or else you'll get nowhere.

Answer 7

When you reach 18 and go to college, you'll life will improve. You just need a change of environment, go away to college. As far as friends, friends come and go. In life one is always making new friends and see old friends less and less.

Answer 8

If you want to do something with your life you could join the military. (any branch will do) you'll gain more respect and confidence in yourself. You'll make friends, grow up a bit and learn a lot.

Answer 9

you need to get out more. you need to be more socially accepting
accepting others increases their acceptance for you.
everyone has friends..even those we call losers..
please dont be disheartened.
people your age often feel disheartened and depressed...but the key is do thins you like..spend time with someone who understands you..there are many ways to spend time and humans are social animals remember that..we need other people to survive.