I told my significant other that I dont want anything to do with his family when he gets out of prision, because they know our babygirl and I are in a tough situation and they did not even have the heart to call during the holidays and ask how the baby was doing. Can you all give me your opinion on this. Thank you
2006-12-29 11:05:01 · 10 answers · asked by escudero1969 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Unless the court orders visitation rights for his family(which I highly doubt), I'm with you. Why is he in prison and how long will he be there?
2006-12-29 11:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend cannot force them into having a relationship they don't choose. He can want all he wants, but he can't make it happen. It sounds like he is having prison cell fantasies about a happy family that doesn't exist.
Rather than waste time arguing on this subject, let him talk about the fantasy. You leave it alone and talk about something else, something you enjoy or that gives you pleasure. This will make your time together more precious and you can take the focus off of people that you don't care about anyway and put it on yourself, your daughter and your boyfriend.
The more you worry and judge his family the less time you have to focus on yourself and your daughter. Find and nurture friendships with people that care and are there for you and you will be much happier. Keep your child and yourself safe.
If you resist his family and put all these restrictions and focus on them, your boyfriend will try to force the issue and they may even join in and try to see the baby simply because you are against it. That is sick, I know... but people often work like that. If you do your own thing like you have been now and keep busy, even if he gets them interested in the baby, their interest will fade (unless you make a big deal about it and they see the baby to spite you).
Best wishes for a good new year.
2006-12-29 19:22:56 · answer #2 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They need to put a little effort into having a relationship if they want one. If you se them when with him then that will be all they get unles they show otherwise they deserve it. It don't take much to call you up and take you and the grandaughter to let her eat and play at mcdonalds are burger king. Bring her a couple dollar present. If they want a relationship they need to work on it. You do not say how hard of times but a gift card to you for 20 at walmart would be a good gift to you so that you can afford what you need.
2006-12-29 19:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough situation, but like it or not, they were his family long before you came along. You've only gotten to bear witness to this period of time when all was not good. I think it's a good thing for a man to want his son to have a relationship with the baby's grandparents......after all, they're family.
2006-12-29 19:09:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a toughie! On one hand, you'd like your child to know her family. But on the other hand, why haven't they been there for you before now? I'd ask! Why all of a sudden do they want to be a part of her life? Be careful and make sure you know their full intensions.
2006-12-29 19:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by WiccaWoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are your childs grandparents and there may be reasons they did not call,,did you call them either? getting to know them may make all this go away but you wont know unless you try,,if they are not nice people then you can make judgments but until then,,go visit and you can always say you thought they didnt want anything to do with you as they did not call and see what they say.dont hide behind anger,,it is a lonely place to be.
2006-12-29 19:10:15 · answer #6 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have every right to be mad at the family for not calling during the holidays but the best way to kill them is flaunt your daughter to them and kill them with kindness your daughter will know who loves her and who doesnt as she gets older sweetie
2006-12-29 19:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by bretmaverick91969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my dads family, they dont deserve contact with her unless she want to talk to them, so they dont have the moral right to realate tot he little girl
2006-12-29 19:08:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter will resent you if you do not let her get to know all of her family!!!
Do you want her to question you later on in life when she is old enough to go meet them herself!!!!
2006-12-29 19:08:28 · answer #9 · answered by purpleone726 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them another chance maybe?.....
2006-12-29 19:08:02 · answer #10 · answered by AbBi ThE pErSoN u KnOw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋