should white families adopt black children and vice versa?

Question

i have read articles citing that love is all that is needed to raise a child, but there are some who argue that a child would be culturally lacking if they are raised by others outside their race. this is specifically asked of americans, and concerning blacks and whites. serious answers please

Answer 1

Seriously? To be honest, I am a 12th or 13th generation American. I have no ties to my family's European roots, and I think I've gotten through it OK.

People who are concerned about black children raised by white families are holding on to a legacy that has long lost its relevance in modern society.

As a practical matter, "black" Americans make up a much larger percentage of the children up for adoption, than they do the pool of prospective adoptive parents. No matter what you think of the other issues involved, the notion that these kids are better off in orphanages or in a series of foster homes...rather than with a set of parents that happen to be the wrong color...is absurd at best.

Answer 2

I think that adopting children of different cultures enriches a whole family. This happens as long as the parents make an effort to include a child's culture with theirs and are not afraid to ask for help from the specific culture of that child...for example White parents that need to understand how to groom and where to have their Black child's hair cut. There are workshops by some social services agencies that address these types of topics, but just asking others from that culture is even better. Honoring another's culture and reaching out for help creates understanding. So to answer the question sometimes love isn't enough but love with effort and undertanding make all involved better people and strengthen families. Adopt who you want and can provide for. Children of some races do not have enough families from their own culture to care for them so just leaving them in "the system" should not be an option. Oh and as black adopting white that happens too for those that are not paying attention..... Love is color blind....Best Wishes

Answer 3

It should not matter the race of the family or the child being adopted as long as you are willing to love and care for the child. Don't just adopt the child so that you can get some type of government check. All people especially children want to be loved. Love does not have a color behind it.

Answer 4

I'm starting to think the only way we will ever stop caring what race other people are is if we all start adopting children of other races and raising them.

There are issues children of every race face that perhaps a different race adoptive parent cannot really understand, but I think that is quite minor compared to some child languishing in foster care because the right color family cannot be found to adopt him or her.

Answer 5

i think anyone adopting a child needs to research what is involved. it's easy to say love conquers all, and while it may conquer a lot, children still have questions that love alone cannot answer. i think any person adopting any child needs to be prepared for questions regarding cultural, biological, and ethinical issues that will come up. i believe that the african american culture as a whole is a very proud and strong culture, but a white couple who embraces and teaches the adopted black baby their heritage along with their own family's will have less problems. as with any baby you need to teach them to grow up with a stong pride for themselves. all children notice differences in appearace and skin colors and all parents need to be prepared to answer these questions honestly and with as little judgement as they can. sadly we do live in a society where people are judged by appearance, so ignoring this is not going to be healthy for a white, black, hispanic, asian, etc, etc. child. every child at one point in time will go through an identity stage, where they will want to know how they came to look the way they do. as long as parents can instill pride and let the child know any question deserves a truthful answer i think a lot of stereotypes and self esteem issues can be resolved early. i believe that as long as the adopting person or person's no matter their color can raise a wonderful member of society in an adopted child no matter what biological background that child has. as an adoptive parent we all take on the responsibility of having no biological ties to this child, but we are all tied together with our hearts and minds. you just need to be prepared early for how to answer the questions your child will have and embrace their uniqueness that all children biological or not have. they are our "own" children no matter how they came into our lives and will be better adults if we do not discriminate against any part of them, and instead embrace what makes them different.

Answer 6

I think this complication exists only in our minds.
As a white man, i dont see any problem and admire people who adopt black children.
But be sure that you can love them as much as when you adopt a white child. That is really what matters.
There is no cultural issue in a child yet but it will be when he grows up. He will be more adapted to your culture and way of living.
It all depends on how you treat the child.
Good Luck

Answer 7

It is not a matter of color but culture, children should be exposed to many different types of cultures. If a black child were to be adopted by a white family, as long has the child was not shielded from neither cultures or practices, it is a great idea.

Answer 8

Culture is different than heredity. A child with parents of a different color might end up with a different cultural background but he wouldn't lack culture.

Your question makes too many assumptions about culture. It's more than just being "white" or "black". There's Southern culture, urban culture, surfing culture, etc. The kids who grow up in any one of those cultures may have trouble relating to people who came from another but they're just different, that's all. Not better or worse.

There shouldn't be any rules.

Answer 9

The only ways a White family should adopt a colored child is , they agree to totally bring the child up, knowing it's nationality and culture. To Love this little one and do nothing to deprive him/her of their culture. They should not be held back, in regards to anything they need to know and carry on with their culture. It is a serious question and much more worry is that these little children are not deprived on anything. Many times when a Black child is raised and Loved by a different culture, way down deep in their little hearts, they yearn to be with their own. And that is true.

Answer 10

As long as they child is loved and all his or her needs are met, than I don't see why the race of the child or parents would matter. I would think children raised by someone of a different race would grow up to be well rounded and more tolerant persons.