help me to convince my mom to let my boyfriend move back in?

Question

OK me and my boyfriend used to live with my mom for a year then we got our own place and we've been living on our own for a year. but now i decided to move back home because we cant afford it. he can live with his parents but they live an hour away and he doesnt have a car and i work 5days a week. i feel so bad because she wont let him come back i feel that we shouldnt be seperated and we should get through this together. we have offered to give her $300 a month but shes being so bitchy about it. ive never really got along with my mom but i keep promising her if she does me this favor it will be different which it will. but if not im gonna continue to be a *****. i told her if she doesnt like him and doesnt think hes good enough for me that its something ill have to realize my self and get over it bymyself but by her pushing it its only making it worst. were both 22years old. ive never been in any illegel trouble and have always been a good kid. just im disrespectful for pesonal reas

Answer 1

Yeah I am pretty sure you are not going to like most of the answers you get...including mine. So you may want to quit reading at this point.

Frankly it is her house...her rules.

I think you should have to pay rent yourself. If your mom does not want your man there...tough. She has the right to make those rules she has done her part to raise you and got you out of her house once. Why should she be forced to bow down to you again at 22?

Don't think it will be different because it won't you will go through a 'honeymoon' period where everything will be fine and dandy and then blam down the crapper! I have seen it a thousand times.

Find a place that is less expensive then where you were living. Both you and your man get jobs and pay the bills like everyone else. You are both old enough to grow up and be adults.

Just from the sounds of it you both need some financial advice and cut out the BS and you would be able to make it on your own.

Besides $300 isn't crap when you consider having to pay additional utilities, I am sure your mom would end up doing your laundry, cleaning up after you, provide you with food, cook for you, and other misc items. You know what it costs to live on your own...why should get get a free ride at moms? You shouldn't!!!!!

Now grow up...move out...and be an adult.

Answer 2

First off hun, you're 16. That's just not a good time to be moving in with someone. If you only get to see him some of the time then it might not be the wisest decision moving in together. When you move in with someone it takes a lot of effort and stress for both people to make it work, trust me it's not something you want to rush into. Besides, you're still young, you don't want to be answering to a man at your age and believe me, when you move in together you learn the good and BAD about someone. I'm sure the reason your mum would be grumpy wouldn't be because of her cultural heritage but more about you being safe and ready. your mum will always look out for the best for you and now is just a little too young to be thinking about moving in with your bf. You just need a little bit more growing up before you take that step.

Answer 3

i am wondering if these personal reasons have something to do with her decision but,,going out on a limb,,the two of you 'seem' to be a couple,together as a couple and no one can just expect a couple to go through hardship without supporting each other,,together,,where one goes the other should go but as you dont seem to have that option you may have to choose whether to stay at his parents and lose your job or go to different homes and feel like split up teenagers,,tough one.for the time in which you would be staying with his parents could you not commute,,it may mean getting up early and home late but in cases like this somethings have to be sacrificed and your time not behind the wheel may be it,,what are you BOTH prepared to do to be the couple you hopefully know you are,,,this decision will be something that either makes or breaks the two of you and it will be something you will thank those who helped you for or struggle to get over with those who did nothing to help you in later years,you are only a few years into this relationship and if you feel this one is the one you have to fight because no one is going to do it for you but i have to say,,if you and he had been together for years and years you wouldnt be having this problem.

Answer 4

First of all, you and him are adults..grow up, it's her house, don't disrespect her. If she doesn't want someone living in her house she has that right. Sounds like you and your boyfriend need to do some saving on your own and then do things right next time. Let it go. Live apart for a while, and oh..share this answer with your mom, I am sure she will agree...
Signed..mother of 6...been disrepected a time or two.

Answer 5

I can't believe you actually think you are right on this one. Like everyone says......at 22, you should be well on your own. I know I wouldn't be supporting a man, let alone ask my Mother to!! You have a lot of growing up to do. There are no reasons to be disrespectful to anyone, personal or not. Get over it, grow up, and get out.

Answer 6

Your boyfriend should get a job to earn money so he can go back to school to get a degree, buy a car and provide a good future for you and him. You should think about doing the same. You need to think about your futures and not depend on Mom to be there to bail you out. Good luck and Happy New Year!

Answer 7

Forget it! If you feel you are big enough to play house, do it on your own dime. Your mother has NO obligation to provide you and your boyfriend a cheap place to have sex and hang out. At 22, you are too old to be expecting your mother to pay for you AND your boyfriend. If you can't afford to support yourselves with 2 incomes, there is CERTAINLY something wrong. Grow up. (this is tough love, dear....but you need it).

Answer 8

Why should she let you both leech off of her . You say you cannot afford to live together but you can afford to live with your mum which means you are using her .
Grow up and leave if you want to but don't expect your mum to pay for your boyfriend.
You seem to be inconsiderate selfish and a user.
Leave and work hard to pay for yourself it is about time you looked after yourself at 22 .

Answer 9

Please tell me you're on birth control. Mom is right on this one. You two are not ready to be living together. Its her house/her rules. She was nice to let you move back in at all. Asking her to move a guy in she can't stand would be a little much. Who wants to live at home and sleep with some man at their MOM's house? Gross. Save up and get out, then go be with the bf. Best of luck. I know its hard and I get you wanting to be with him. If you're meant to be together, the two of you will work it out.

Answer 10

It's her house and its very possible she wants the privacy. Having him there interferes with how she wants to live. Its her house. Maybe he should get a job so you could afford to have your own place. You didnt say he had one. Instead of being annoyed with your mother you should be annoyed with your boyfriend.