Are you scared of death?

Question

I worry about death all the time, and I am scared of it. I feel alone and lonely. My parents are sick of me discussing it. But it is true, I am really scared of death, and I get so nervous every single day.

I can't even think clearly, because I worry about it so much.

My parents really make me nervous.

What is going to happen to me after I die?

It is very cold where I stay.

Answer 1

David, do you know Jesus? If you do, ask Jesus to come into your life and give you peace.

Do you have a Bible? If you do, start reading it. Start in the Book of John in the New Testament.

Faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the Word of God. The Bible is the word of God. When you know Jesus there is no need to worry about dying, because Jesus said, "absent from the body, present with the Lord." The moment I die, I will immediately be with Jesus in heaven. I have nothing to worry about.

Answer 2

There are a few things that can help you.

One is to look into some of the religious texts proposed here, so that you can come to an intellectual conclusion about what you believe is most likely to happen to us when we die. As others have mentioned, it is inevitable that we all will die at some point. You'll feel much better when you stop obsessing over it.

The second is to develop an interest that will bring meaning and enjoyment to your life. Helping others is something many people find deeply rewarding. Volunteering is a good way to get your mind off your own troubles, but there are lots of different things you could try: art, music and sports are just a few possibilities.

Also, there are some medications that can help you deal with your anxiety as well as some relaxation techniques that you can find for free on-line.

See if you can make a conscious decision to engage in life, to really live it to the best of your ability. It's not easy overcoming anxiety and changing thought patterns, but it can be done. You have so much to gain! Good luck.

Answer 3

Scientifically speaking... "Energy can neither be created, nor destroyed." ... However, it can be transformed or reorganized.

Break down what YOU know to be *true* (true as in your belief in its truth, rather than a factual truth) into its component elements, and see what you discover. You'll likely find that death is just the end of one phase the start of the next. It's very liberating.

For me, our bodies operate by electrical impulses organized in a variety of ways to accomplish various tasks. As a "worst case" scenario, when you die, those electrical impulses stop interacting with your physical body.... but continue to exist. The electrons that are those electrical impulses may even break down into quantum particles (seriously), or go floating out into space, or absorbed by the surrounding environment, but they still exist in some form.

Death is really a term that we give to a process in which we don't understand the outcome, and thus we believe it to be the end.

Do you think a caterpillar knows what will happen to it when it build a cocoon and embarks on its transformation to a butterfly?

I can't say I ever feared death, I used to not think about it. A few years ago, someone I knew died. It was very unexpected and the series of events that followed were exhausting to say the least. I did some reading, and really stopped to think about a lot of things in life, particularly death and what our role and purpose here is while we are alive. The "truth" that I discovered was this:

Cause and Effect are the rules of the universe. There is no truer truth than this. Love and Understanding are the ultimate goals. You can only Love something which you truly understand. Of course, in order to understand something, you must learn everything you can about it.

As a result, now I love the idea of "Death"... (not enough to go jump off a building or anything... there is still that cause and effect rule!)

KM

Answer 4

I worry about death too. Mainly at night, just before I go to sleep. I've got 2 young kids (20 months and 11 weeks old) and I worry about anythig happening to them as well.

I've started to read quite a bit of Buddhism now and that's been helping. Basically death is the only sure thing about life and the best way is to simply accept that fact and realise that it infact ties you to everyon else. Every single living person will die - it's a problem we all share! That thought should help you not to feel so alone. The next step is to realise that death is actually just a transformation to the next phase of life - whether or not you believe in reincarnation (and I probably don't).

The other thing that helps me is the knowledge that's there's no such thing as the traditional Christian heaven or hell - it's all just made up. If the Buddhists are right then we are actually in hell now- so the only way is up!

There's a book called the Tibetan Book of Living and Dying. Give it a shot!

Answer 5

You should fear death no more than your fears of tomorrow. No one can truly know what is to happen at death. Religions all preach some one sided notion of "our way is the only true way" Truthfully, I do not fear the unknown, I may sleep tonight and never wake again. My consciousness may simply flicker out. Possibly, I will arrive at the pearly gates, or maybe I will need a few coins for the boat man. Then again, consciousness may only fade for a moment as I am reborn as a frog. My point is, do not fear something you cannot change. Respect the possibility of death and therefore live the day as if it is the last.

Answer 6

David, you sound like me when I was young, like when I was 19 and younger. But, I went through an accident which nearly killed me, I now have a TBI (traumatic brain injury), which just walking down the street would kill me, but I have lived 8 yr.s and a half since the car accident. What it taught me was there is nothing scary about death, and you probably have a long life ahead of you. Why do your parents make you nervous? Do you think they are going to end your life? I'm not trying to be rude about this, just a question. You may want to go talk to a doctor about your fear, depending on how old you are.

Answer 7

I am also scared of death and I have thought about it from time to time (apparently not as often as you though - I am able to put it out of my mind). Sounds like you might have an anxiety problem. I am a worrier too, but also rely on the stats. What are the chances if I XXXXX that something will happen to me (insert anything...drive to work, ride a roller coaster, etc.)? Do what you can to relieve your anxiety. For me, the fear is more about pain, what I might put my family through, what will happen to my husband and daughter if I go young, etc. But one thing that helps me to move on is that I cannot do anything about it. It will happen when it does. It is just something I can't control.

Answer 8

It's difficult to give a definate answer regarding what happens when a person dies, I personally like to think there's someplace you go and all of that, there is some evidence around.
I think worrying about death is a bad thing. It's something that's inevitable for everyone, we're all gonna die sometime, so it's best to enjoy life and take every day as it comes.
It might be a good idea for you to think about compiling a life list, a list of things you'd like to do in your lifetime and try to fulfil those wishes as and when you can. It;s something else to think about and something you can enjoy.
Try to enjoy life and not think about death. A friend of mine lost his dad a few months ago and he said last week that his dad came through to his mom via a psychic...and considering my friend has never believed in all of that (nor did his dad!) it's something huge I guess. It must mean there's something, the psychic was someone he and his mom had never met before and she knew things that nobody else could know...so because of that i'm inclined to think that dying isn't necessarily the end...it's the start of something new.
Basically, what i'm trying to say is try to stop worrying, try and get it out of your mind...maybe go see someone and talk through it? Dying isn't something you should be scared of, it's something that's going to happen one day but worrying about it isn't going to achieve anything.

Answer 9

Basically for ordinary Tom, Dick & Harry, we're scared of death because we are afraid of not being able to fulfil whenever thats not being done. For instance, saying I Love You to your love ones. Or at worst, if you have a religion, you may be afraid of death because of a sin you did on earth, in which you will get retribution/punishments in the afterlife.

Yes, I am scared of death. Although I do think of it to remind myself not to do anything regretful, I still move on in life. You've got to stop thinking of how you're gonna die, when you're gonna die and all. It will come. To everyone in this world. Everything will eventually come to an end.

Look at death in a good way. Look at it as something that keeps you in track of life.

Answer 10

Not of my own death but I'm scared of the people I love dying.

As for what will happen to you, I really believe when you die you'll go to a better place.