My husband and I have been married for 3 months and we are still virgins. I know what you are thinking...but we are totally comfortable around each other. We do plenty of other things in bed but when it comes to intercourse it never works out. I have gone to my gyno and had a pap. but there is nothing wrong with me. We have tried several times but it seems like his part is too big to go inside of me. When he is half way in he ejaculates earily. i don't know what to do. I am totally relaxed I don't think he is. I have tried to take some of the pressure off of him by pleasing him other ways first but it doesn't seem to work,. What are some suggestions?
2006-12-29 09:57:08 · 13 answers · asked by nodesignerdogs4me 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
WE DID NOT INTENTIONALY SAVE OURSELVES FOR MARRIAGE. We tried before we were married but nothing ever happened.
2006-12-29 10:10:52 · update #1
AND WE DON'T NEED CONSUELING, JUST PLENTY OF PRACTICE. :)
2006-12-29 10:12:30 · update #2
We have tried lubricant but most of it breaks me out. We even have to use special condomns because my skin is so sensative. I think I am just going to get a little alcohol in him to relax him and see what happens.
2006-12-29 10:27:29 · update #3
WE ARE STILL VIRGINS IF MY HYMEN HAS NOT BEEN BROKE!
2006-12-29 10:32:25 · update #4
Waiting until tour married is best(DONT LISTEN TO MORONS THAT SAY OTHERWISE!!!). Technically, your not virgins, because you have had penetration. I would recommend buying some lubrication, and have him force it to work. It will work, unless he got a horses thing transplanted to his body!!!
2006-12-29 10:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by Zacklee 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
"AND WE DON'T NEED CONSUELING, JUST PLENTY OF PRACTICE. :)"
If you know that answer already...why did you ask the question?
He is NOT too big. Men have been fitting into women since the dawn of time.
If he gets 1/2 way inside then you are NOT virgins. Your hymen means NOTHING! Virginity is not based on your hymen. Your husband has gotten half of his penis inside of you and ejaculated. YOU TWO ARE NOT VIRGINS! You two had sex, not very good sex, but sex none the less.
He has pre-mature ejaculation and that is an issue. He needs to see a doctor concerning treatments for it.
2006-12-29 10:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he is a premie them you dont need to arouse him first. he needs to do it to you so you get some pleasure. since your a virgin it will be hard for him to get inside of you. get a dollop of lube to make it easier. and no sex dosnt really hurt that much. it feels pretty good the first time. use a condom. when he comes stop for a few minutes. change condoms and go at again it takes longer for a man to go again than a woman. luck .sex is fun.
2006-12-29 10:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by leaves_of_autumn171311 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"That's why people shouldn't "save themselves for marriage"! :/"
I agree. I think a lot of people who decide to save themselves for marriage severely underestimate the importance of experience and compatibility in maintaining a healthy sexual relationship.
It's like not double-checking your safety gear before you skydive - would you do it because a priest told you not to?
2006-12-29 10:04:06 · answer #4 · answered by John C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your hubby's fault. He has premature ejaculation. He needs to go see a doctor and consult about his problem. By the way, you guys are not married yet because you still need to consummate your marriage, which means having sex.
2006-12-29 10:00:43 · answer #5 · answered by Sax M 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Have you tried lubrication?
2006-12-29 10:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to c a Dr about premature ejaculation.
2006-12-29 10:10:26 · answer #7 · answered by CH CH CH CHIA 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"When he is half way in he ejaculates earily."
You ain't virgins.
2006-12-29 10:09:38 · answer #8 · answered by Holden 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
All i can say is keep trying
2006-12-29 10:01:05 · answer #9 · answered by Brtny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bring another man into the bedroom to show you how it is done, your husband can watch and learn.
2006-12-29 10:37:08 · answer #10 · answered by shane892000 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋