Do I leave?

Question

I found out I was eight weeks pregnant last week. My husband kicked me in the stomach but swears it was an accident. (We were playing around but he's never kicked that hard). I don't know if it really was. Luckily he hit more of my chest than my stomach and I already went to the hospital and everything is fine. How do I trust him or do I just leave?

Answer 1

well if u were playing around seems like when ever anyone starts to fool around someone always ends up getting hurt even with my own kids....i dont believe id walk out golly you have alot thats going to change your life in the short future you will need each other badly nowwwwww if he ever just smacks you around and you were not playing around then hit the door fast but forgive him and both be happy the babies ok remember it takes 2 to tangle!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Only you know how you felt when he kicked you, if you were playing around then it happened, I wouldn't take it too seriously, if everything is okay with the baby and all I would stay. I am kind of confused why you guys are playing around that way when you're pregnant, especially sense you are a little fragile at this time in your life. If he had never hit me before,playfully,I would question his motives. Why now especially when I'm pregnant? But if he displayed an apologetic attitude, and it was sincere, than you have nothing to worry about sweetie....just be careful and stop the wrestling until after you're pregnant okay.lol

Answer 3

That is a very personal and difficult question to ask total strangers. You have a lot more information to give before asking if you should leave your husband while you are pregnant. For instance, was this baby planned? Was he happy about it? Are things okay financially? If you were "playing around" could it have been a freak accident? These are questions you have to ask yourself and if you doubt it, talk to a therapist or close friend. Don't leave such an important thing up to Yahoo Answers. Whatever you do, I hope it works out well for you - and your baby. You certainly don't want your baby to be around someone who will hurt it.

Answer 4

Your asking a bunch of strangers who don't know you or your husband if you should leave him? OK granted you shouldn't be rough housing when pregnant, but I seem to remember it takes two to play rough house (my hubbie and I do from time to time) and yes sometimes it gets rough, has he had a series of rough housing when you have said no...or stop and he doesn't?...does he treat you like a door mat and normally slap you around? is he fast to fly off the handle and has he ever hit you before?

If you have answered no to these questions then I think your over reacting, talk to him and see what he says...but if hes even showed just one of the signs then I would consider getting some professional help.

Don't throw away what may be a perfectly good marriage on what might have been just what he said it was...an accident.

Answer 5

Well, if you thought he was "just playing around", you wouldn't be asking us if you should leave a perfectly fine situation over an apparent accident. Did your husband punch your stomach? If he did, then yes: LEAVE IMMEDIATELY. This behavior will escalate, as your stomach gains size. Please, don't subject your baby to an abusive relationship. It's not fair, and you need to consider it's health just as much as yours. If you think otherwise, and are not sure my advice is correct, then post a question in "Polls and Surveys" regarding this question here... There is more traffic and a better mix of opinions.

Answer 6

thats a tough one...Hashe ever showed any signs of not being ready or not wanting a baby...Is he really harsh on you about the pregnancy because if so I would leave. I was watching a documentary on television on abusive and harsh relationships and they said that men being very playful as far as joking about the pregnancy or always talking crap and being rough about it show signs of an upcoming abusive realtionship. All I really can say is try to talk to him about how he is feeling and thinking. Sorry I can't be much more helpful! Good luck hun!

Answer 7

you need to talk to him...it may have very well been an accident although that was a very strategic shot to kick you in your stomach and most men wont do this and risk something so huge knowing that their wives are pregnant...talk to him, see how he responds, and if at any point he becomes irrational, i would say that it may be a good time to take some time apart for your health and the health of your child. good luck

Answer 8

I would trust him and wait and see what happens. As you said, you were both playing around, and one doesn't always remember one's strenght, especially men. (sorry guys, but true). Also the fact that you just found out about the pregnancy last week, it may not have sunk in just yet for your husband. Not having the physical aspects of pregnancy can make it a little bit harder for men to adjust to the idea of the baby on the way as fast as we women do. Next time you guys get playing around, just be on your guard a little bit more and if he gets too rough, remind him of the baby. It wont take to long before he remembers on his own and is just as careful of you and the baby as you are. Congrads.

Answer 9

You need to leave. Any decent man would not rough house with the woman he loves and is carrying his child.

In the papers recently where I live a man was convicted of killing his unborn baby. He punched and licked his pregnant girlfriend until she lost the baby. She was 5 months pregnant.

Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 10

Seems like he doesn't want a baby. Talk to him and ask if this is true and if it is leave. You are putting yourself and your baby at risk by sticking around. It's difficult and it might seem like playing to you but it probably was not. Take care of yourself and make sure you are safe.