Why am I always getting put-downs?! What should I do?!?

Question

I'm a very nice good girl. I'm always supporting my friends and family in anything they do or decide. Although, when it comes to me, they're always putting me down for some reason. I am a senior in high school. And all my friends know what they want to do for their working career and for college. So we always ask each other what we're going to do. (They want to be: fashion designers, teachers, nurses, doctors, lawyers .. you know those kinds of jobs) When it's my turn to answer I tell them I'm going to NYU next year because I want to master in journalim and minor in fashion. I really want to be a fashion and/or beauty magazine editor for my favorite magazine in New York. (Like: Allure,Cosmogirl, Seventeen) And their always telling me to change profession. Always telling me it's a competitive field to get into, and from all the people that want the job, you probably won't get it. They tell me it's hard to be an editor for a good magazine you simply aren't good enough for the job.

Answer 1

My best advice is ignore everything they say for now and when you get where you want in life...give them all the juicy details of who you meet, where you got to go, what your nice income has brought with it and so forth. Then remind them of what rotten friends they were for not supporting you on your way there. That is unless you wanna ditch your friends now and find better more supportive ones.

Answer 2

Well next time this little conversation comes up with your friends you need to give them some of your own 2-cents. They say that a career at a fashion magazine is competitive (which it is of course but what else do you expect) but I don't think that your friends realize that a career as a fashion designer is also extremely competitive. Yes, we hear about certain designers making it big but there are thousands and thousands of other designers who fail. And to those of your friends who want to become lawyers, they have to realize that going through law school is extremely tough and that some of them may fail or drop out. Becoming a doctor falls in that category also...Med school is hard. Not everyone has the capability to become a doctor. So when your friends start to put you down and try to belittle you because of the career you want to purse, simply tell them that it's your life and you know what you're doing.

Answer 3

FORGET THEM!! It might be a while before you become an editor of a high profile fashion magazine but starting off by going to NYU is a major step- you will meet great contacts , get a great education and u will be in the fashion capital of the world! Don't give up- you have more of a chance in succeeding in the fashion world as awriter than a designer!

Answer 4

follow your dreams. if you can't find a job doing what you want right away, that's ok. it probably really is a hard one to get into, but that shouldn't stop you from trying. with a master's in journalism, you shouldn't have any problem finding a job doing something else while you wait for the big one to come along. successful people don't let difficulty keep them from trying. you sound like you've got a good head on your shoulders. i'd bet that you will have that dream job someday. you probably already know this, but you'll very likely have to work your way up to an editor position, so concentrate 1st on getting your foot in the door at your favorite magazine. i don't mean to take just any old job. you probably can't work all the way up to editor from every job there. you'll have to land one that gets you noticed. don't listen to anyone who tells you that you aren't good enough. i can tell from your question that you have writing skills. in fact, this answer is probably making you twitch a little since i refuse to capitalize-sorry about that. good luck in finding your dream job.

Answer 5

Madison everyone gets criticizm at some point in their life. There are lots of celebrities who were told they wouldn't make it but they did. Example: Mary J. Blige said on one of her interviews that she was really distressed because family & friends told her that she wouldn't make it to the next level. Mary won 9 grammy's this year and if you ask me it was way over due.

To get to my point, you will always have someone that will try and tell what you can't do, but if you feel deep down inside that you can and you have a passion for this sort of work, then go for it. I know it's hurtful coming from close friends and family, but stay focused on your dream. If you want it you'll get it =)

Good luck!!!

Answer 6

Don't let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game. If it's what you really want to do, go for it!! If you have other interests, you could always have another cool job you'd love in mind so, if you're scared you might not make it as your 1st choice, you'll always know you'll end up doing something you love. Hope this helps! :) Good luck with the editing job!

Answer 7

I aqm so sorry your friends treat you that way. Some friends. Well, I think that what you want to do sounds very interesting and I know an editor of a local magazine. They went college at a smaller school of course but I think anyone can do anything if they put their minds to it. So, good luck and don;t change what you want to do b/c of other people's opinion's. muha! =P

Answer 8

Sometimes it is because your friends don't want to separate from you, and they pick any excuse for you not to leave, or maybe they want to help (even if it sounds odd) their trying to stop you from getting hurt or disappointed. Or in other cases their just haters and dint want you do be better than them (which I hope that's not the case) but dint listen to anything that will put you down. Follow your dreams. You only live once make the best of it Be what you want to be

Answer 9

They may be worried about you being disappointed. But, those who really care will support your passion.

If you are dedicated and committed then you can do whatever you want. You may have to take smaller steps, like starting out working in smaller cities first. Chop your goals into bite-sized pieces then work your way up.

Answer 10

first of all forget your so called friends..if you really want to be what you said...then do it..dont let other tell you what to do..its your life and fashion will always be with us so there are jobs in it..hell if things get tuff you can always strip on weekends to pay the bills..I got your first dollar right here...shank it moma..daddy's hungery..