Does that mean I just haven't met the right man yet? Does it mean I need more time before I start dating? I've been on 2 dates & hated it, just wanted to be home with my kids. I've gotten over my ex (22 yr. marriage), but when will I ever be able to move on or will I ever? I want to go out & have fun. Just can't seem to enjoy it yet.
2006-12-29 09:01:51 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How ever you feel is just how you feel.
YOu gave this person over twenty good years of your life.
It is VERY hard to start over.
When you are ready you will know.
If you are never ready that is fine too
YOU DONT NEED A MAN TO COMPLETE YOU!
I am happy that you are taking the time out to discover yourself! GO AT YOUR OWN PACE
2006-12-29 09:05:02 · answer #1 · answered by kissmymiddlefinger 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you're fine. Don't worry about it. Enjoy your kids and your life and give yourself some time to heal. Even if you are over your ex, a divorce is a difficult experience and it takes some time to get back on your feet emotionally.
I went through this when I got divorced a few years ago . . . I didn't feel ready to date for a while, but people kept asking me if I was dating and who I was dating and I started to think there was something the matter with me because I just wasn't interested! I guess I started dating again after a year or so and met my second husband not long afterwards.
Good luck and give yourself a break!
2006-12-29 17:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its normal to not want to date right away.Actually it would be better if you didn't date for awhile this way you can learn to be on your on for awhile.Use this time to reconnect with
friends and family also try to get involved in some new hobbies.It takes time to get back in the dating mood and to fit in with such recent memories.Take time to learn who you are and what it is that you want.After a divorce we change inside and our likes and dislikes change also.Sometimes what was once a fun event now becomes a small unpleasant reminder of the past.Give it some time and there are so many guys out there looking for a woman recently divorced like you that want to start dating again.These guys are looking for a easy booty call and because you may be venerable they will try you.
2006-12-29 17:18:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you. I been separated now for 3 years and tried dating but nothing beyond the first dates. What helped me was not to date but needed to do something with my spare time. I found groups that were within my age group and started building up my social circles. I found that you need to be happy with yourself first and that does take time. Relax and enjoy your time you don't need to go out on a date to have fun. Sometimes its just being out with other people that will help you. Good Luck
2006-12-29 17:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's perfectly normal to not want to "get out there" quite yet. Especially after such a long marriage.
You deserve to get in-touch with yourself and your emotions. Get to know who you are. Surround yourself with loved ones. Enjoy life to the fullest. You don't need a boyfriend for that!
One day you'll wake up an realize that you have "moved on." Then maybe you'll be more open to a new relationship. Maybe not! I know a few women who were married 20+ years and got divorced and they are 100% happy on their own. There is nothing wrong with that. You need to do what feels right for you.
Cheers!
2006-12-29 17:25:34 · answer #5 · answered by Christina M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with you. After 22 years of marriage you just are too used to something than nothing else seems normal. You should try staying single. I mean, go out, mingle with people but just on a friendship level. To be honest I dont think you will find anyone after 22 years of marriage, you should try just focusing on your kids and your life. Try enjoying life as it is.
2006-12-29 17:19:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just relax and enjoy your kids for now. you were married for 22 years, thats a long time for you to get over. so try getting couseling if you are depressed or angry, it will really help!! then try doing things just for yourself, go shopping, sometimes a new look or hairdo etc....really help to make you feel better about yourself and help with a happier attitude. sit and listen to some good music with a good book and coffee, wine or tea in the evenings. this will help you to relax and improve your mood for bed. take a class in something you have always wanted to do, cooking, writing, dance, music, etc......this will be something you can do for yourself and you can meet other people too!! then when the time is right you will be able to go out again with a better outlook and you may even meet someone you like!!! GOOD LUCK!!
2006-12-29 17:14:14 · answer #7 · answered by onyx maiden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no there is nothing wrong with you! you just either haven't found the right person or need more time although you say you are over your ex of 22 yrs it has only been 8 months and plus you are not used to dating other men as you have been with just one for 22 yrs its bound to be different/scary or strange
2006-12-29 17:08:29 · answer #8 · answered by nealeyus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself some time. Why push things? When the time's right, you'll know and you'll be ready to enjoy dating. I don't think you need therapy just yet, just patience. Eight months isn't that long after a 22-year marriage.
2006-12-29 17:05:18 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No theres nothing wrong with you the thing is you need more time you have been married for 22 years and now all you want is time for your self, and thats all normal don't worry when you least think about it you will be dating again, just relax enjoy your freedom
2006-12-29 17:09:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋