Well, if it does happen to everybody then WHY bother getting married when all we have to do is hook up with everybody else.
:-p
2006-12-29 09:01:16
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answered by bottom dollar 3
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Your question presumes a lot. First off, is it a secret? I don't think it's a secret.
Secondly, I think you are absolutely wrong in presuming that it exists in every marriage and/or relationship. Some folks are truly faithful. And you fail to mention that some folks are indeed celibate in their marriages and/or relationships.
There is no reason to accept any so-called "fact".
People killing each other is a whole other 'can of worms' than simply finding something unacceptable. If people killed others simply because they found something unacceptable, then everyone would potentially be a murderer.
I would like to hear how you think people should "deal with it...so that more marriages will survive."
The bottom line is that it is not a secret that it exists.
You are drawing a big assumption to say that it universally exists, rather than it is predominant or otherwise likely that it is very common.
BTW, people over 50 are just as prone to infidelity as the next person. To stereotype people over 50 as being less likely to stray is just another assumption.
2006-12-29 09:04:26
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answered by doublewidemama 6
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I disagree, none of my brothers have been unfaithful,
And None of my sisters have been unfaithful,
I have friends both male and female who are able to control their desires,
Personally I feel that many people do cheat but not All, and alot less than you seem to think.
i do not consider it to be acceptable,
I wouldn't want this to be a norm.
I do agree that its up to each individual to decide if they'll stay or go.
But I disagree that, its happening to everyone.
I think that If a person is disloyal to his/her spouse, he will be disloyal in other areas, and when the trust is gone, so is the marriage,
As a mother, i would hate to think of what it would be like for my child to be hurt that way,
As a woman, and a mother, and a sister, ad wife, I would not be Happy about a Cheating spouse, but I would forgive infidelity.
Unless it was more than a one night stand,
And depending on every situation you need to take it into account.
Personally I wouldn't feel our marriage was worth anything to my spouse if he were to cheat, and i would then start considering my options, i might even stay in the marriage while it was absolutely necessary, and then when the time was right . I'd probably leave.
I have been cheated on before, and given second chances, but I truly believe once a cheater always a cheater.
It is not acceptable or Normal,
Not every person Cheats.
Most people have self control, and self confidence.
Only insecure, selfish individuals cheat,
To those of you who cheat:
I would bet you feel guilty, but i bet you thought you wouldn't get caught, I 'll bet you lay the blame, and can't take personall responsibility, I bet you regret, I even bet your hurt.
But now more than anything your lonely and greiving , because you destroyed something that was most valued, because you didn't feel worthy.
And now your NOT.
Place yourself in the other persons shoes, how does it fit?
Meg
2006-12-29 09:09:40
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answered by Anonymous
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How are you just going to get on here and tell married people that you've never met that you KNOW infidelity takes place in their marriage? My mom and stepfather are completely devoted to each other and just because infidelity is a common factor for you does not give you the right to speak for everyone.
2006-12-29 08:57:54
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answered by Tiacola Version 9.0 7
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2016-02-12 03:20:37
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answered by Anonymous
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I think secretly you desire proof that this is not true. I know it isn't but pity the person who has never seen Godly marriages of folks who both stayed true to God and to each other and honored their vows. They are becoming more and more rare. My grandparents and parents are examples and I know many more. Just take my word for it. Fidelity and real love still exists although satan wants to destroy every home he can. He is working overtime because he knows his days are numbered.
2006-12-29 09:10:37
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answered by Lovin' Mary's Lamb 4
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Sounds more like someone wanting to normalize and rationalize their own actions then a real question.
Infidelity does happen a lot , bu that doesn't make it OK. If people were honest it would happen less.
Old people have tons of sex (and have infidelity as well)
2006-12-29 08:59:55
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answered by Anonymous
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Well lets see here. There are plenty of people that are able to control themselves and not cheat(myself included). Do not assume that just because you cant control yourself everyone else is like you. Or perhpas you are bitter because you were cheated on? Either way your broad all encompasing statements show ignorance.
2006-12-29 09:08:18
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answered by Mazlow01 2
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I've never tried heroin or crack cocaine. I know for a fact if I did, I would enjoy it but at a great cost. I would loose all I hold dear, so I don't dabble. I also know that if I were to cheat on my wife, I would, for at least a very brief moment, enjoy it, but at a great cost. I would loose all I hold dear. I don't see myself using hard drugs or cheating on my wife anytime soon. I cannot agree with you hypothesis.
2006-12-29 08:59:46
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answered by Bob 4
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You know, there are couples in this world who are more than happy to be only with each other.
What is your circle of friends like that everyone cheats on one another and you consider this normal????
2006-12-29 09:00:04
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answered by normlgirl@sbcglobal.net 2
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I was married at age 20 and was faithful to my husband for 30 years until he died.
You are just trying to rationalize your own behaviour.
2006-12-29 08:56:23
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answered by WendyD1999 5
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