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i think we should all adopt if we cant have our own. but i can see many reasons why one would disagree. what do you think ?

2006-12-29 08:53:30 · 4 answers · asked by victoriaaspen 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Trying to Conceive

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I think IVF is fine. Adoption seems to be a complicated process. I've been trying to conceive for over two years and have recently looked into adoption. These agencies want so much money to complete the paperwork that it's terrible. If I could easily adopt then I would do it, but I don't have that kind of money. Now looking at IVF, it's fairly simple and my insurance will cover it. Plus then I get a baby which is another hard thing to get from adoption. I understand that raising a child will cost money over time but to have to come up with $10k at least for adoption - that is just too much money.

2006-12-29 10:22:51 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs_M 4 · 1 1

Well based on your question there really is not enough info to give a good opinion. Like age, reason for needing IVF? Adoption is wonderful. There are so many children that need homes. I do understand the wanting to have your own child. IVF is an expensive treatment and it is not guaranteed that it will work. It is an emotional rollercoaster. If you have good insurance it may cover some of the cost. (mine covered labs, ultrasounds and 50% of prescriptions). The rest of the expense was over $10,000.00. While this seems like nothing if you ended up with a baby or two or more, When you end up with nothing you wonder why you did it. Most likey you will try IVF once or twice more till you either get a baby or you loose you sanity. There are lots of shots, blood draws, ultrasounds, and stuff needing to be done at a specific time. Each time you try it ties up a lot of time from work ect.. I am not trying to tell you not to do IVF. I did. I was lucky it took only two attempts, I ended up with a healthy son. It was scary to think that the first atttempt had worked I would have had triplets (if all took). I was not a person that had difficulty getting pregnant though. I had 4 kids from a previous marriage and had made the mistake of having my tubes tied. I have a few friends who have never had kids and couldn't get pregnant. One did 5 IVF attempts and nothing (they are now foster parents). The other had done all sorts of fertility treatments for two years and finally moved on to IVF. One attempt worked for her. So it is really all about how much money you have and how much you can deal with. I really just wanted to give you the reality of IVF. I am happy that I did it but I was at the happy end. I wish you the best with what ever choice you make. You could always try IVF and if it does not work move on to adoption. There is no time clock ticking with adoption.

2006-12-31 20:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by wesleyann 3 · 0 0

I agree. I think that if you can't get pregnant on your own and want children than maybe that's God's way of getting you to take in a child who needs a home. There are SO MANY children out there who need parents. I wish more people would consider adoption. I am having a baby but my hubby and I have already discussed adopting our next.

2006-12-29 16:59:01 · answer #3 · answered by CC 1 · 0 1

I'm against IVF. If it's not meant to be then it's not meant to be. Just because you can't get pregnant doesn't mean you have the right to play God.

I agree, more people should adopt. They wonder why this world is in such bad shape, but they don't contribute to helping it. Instead of taking a parentless child into their home, they artificially create their own.

2006-12-29 17:10:35 · answer #4 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 1 1

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