We were married for 7 years. My husband is good to me in everything, But coming to Sex life, he is not intimate to me .He doesn’t like to have sex.he sits at the computer until he gets sleep and sleep as soon as he comes to bed. We have very occasionally may be once in 2 or 3 months, that too when I initiates. He has a problem of premature ejaculation...he is in the field of health care and really have knowledge of the problem, and how to rectify it.so the problem is not related to physical.
I many times told to him, how I feel and about how sex is also important in life and we would go for counseling .But he never like to do so. He never has any intimacy feeling towards me. Sometimes I cry myself to sleep and go to bed alone while he sits at the computer. I really don’t know how to change my husband. I know this is not good in long run of our marriage. I really love my husband so much, and wants him to change.
2006-12-29 08:50:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry to say it, but if he doesn't want any changes, you are going to feel worst. You even can get sick because of that frustration and rejection. He doesn't want to understand you and your feelings what kind of person is he? Make it clear to him that this is very serious and he must get some changes. I believe that if you love each other, you have to talk and try to do something about that together.
2006-12-29 09:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by Bella 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, he is just frustrated and so tends to drown his frustration at the computer. He may also be into porn which is cheating on you and can actually "replace" his sexual activities with you. I would go into that computer and begin to investigate. I would also go and get professional counseling, even if he doesn't go. The fact that he is ignoring the problem spells trouble since it won't go away. Enough of the agony! It is time to take action and live well. Take life seriously and live it INTENTIONALLY. Nothing worth having was ever handed down. Act TODAY!
Take care,
Mr. M on "no intimacy."
2006-12-29 08:58:03 · answer #2 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make it more exciting. Go sit on his lap in a sexy outfit when hes on the computer and tell him you're going to bed and he have 5 minutes. If that doesn't work try something else. Give him a 'massage' while hes sitting there. I don't mean to shock you either but get some toys for yourself to use WITH him. That way by the time he is about to get his you are too.
If that doesn't work you might need some counseling. I would think if you are eager to please him he would be eager too though. Go to a novelty shop or look on line at passions stuff too, they have stay hard cream that works rather well.
2006-12-29 09:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by hot mama 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like he has some serious issues and Honey you can not change him unless he wants to change. I would insist on sex therapy, if he doesn't agree then you need to decide if this is how you want to spend the rest of your life. It's not normal.
2006-12-29 09:46:27 · answer #4 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you look like 7 years ago? Try to get back to that image, then see what happens.
2006-12-29 10:06:40 · answer #5 · answered by adddictedtomonsterenergy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to counseling. Hopefully they will help you better communicate your concerns to your husband or even get him to agree to join you in couples counseling. You are right, this is not good for the long run of your marriage.
2006-12-29 09:05:07 · answer #6 · answered by CA DIVA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if possible give him a strip tease while he is at the computer. you know what i mean i hope. if that doesn't work, have extended foreplay before you two initiate act the until you are ready. if that doesn't work get him tipsy and have your way with him. good luck.
2006-12-29 09:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your problem seem not to be physical problem. You can find some useful info to help your couple life here
http://www.treatment-premature-ejaculation.com/pe/penaturaltreatment1.htm
Good luck.
2006-12-30 03:41:49 · answer #8 · answered by Afriend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just spending too much time in front of the computer.
2006-12-29 09:06:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you really need to persuad your husband into seeing a marriage counsler because it sounds like he has issues
2006-12-29 08:57:24 · answer #10 · answered by lilsis2576 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋