talks about me to her plans stuff with her pays bills with her gives her money anytime she wants it. we rent a house and he wont even buy stuff to fix it up but he will take his x wifes old stuff so she can get new? should I be upset?
2006-12-29 08:48:27 · 11 answers · asked by Angeline R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Should you be upset?
No.
You should be divorced.
because HE obviously is NOT.
2006-12-29 08:51:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did your relationship come about because your husband was cheating on his wife with you? If it did, then you shouldn't be surprised at all about what's going on. If you two were cheating on his wife then he obviously feels guilty about what you BOTH did to her. Did you have this child while he was still married to his wife? If so, maybe he didn't really want to divorce his wife to marry you, but felt an obligation to do so because you were pregnant. You stated he's "older" than you and sometimes older married men feel guilty because they've allowed themselves to get involved with young thieving whores without any conscience than to have an affair with a man who belongs to another woman. If you were involved in an affair with this man while he was married then you deserve every horrible thing that happens to you. If you got involved with him after he was divorced, then you should put your foot down about him doing everything for his ex-wife.
2006-12-29 17:01:11 · answer #2 · answered by saylavie2u2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be concerned, He should treat the ex wife like a sister. And if they have no kids together or kids over 18 they really have no need to talk with each other. Tell him how you feel. See what his reaction is and go by that. good luck
2006-12-29 19:32:50 · answer #3 · answered by whynot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the problem with second marriages, people often take the issues and memories from the first one.
Unless you want a divorce there is nothing you can do about this, if he starts having sex with her then you can be pissed off
2006-12-29 17:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by Wyst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you should be upset, but this should have stopped before you got married to him. So now, he need to make a choice. If he chooses her, then burn him for alimony and child support. But don't stay miserable in a marriage. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-29 16:57:14 · answer #5 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you shouldn't be upset. You KNEW all of this BEFORE you married him. He is still attached to his ex-wife and now you have put yourself and your child in a terrible situation. It is too late to be upset now.
2006-12-29 16:51:42 · answer #6 · answered by Jewells 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I’m sure he was like that before you married him. Did you really think he would magically change once you said, “I do”? Of course not.
2006-12-29 17:41:28 · answer #7 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he needs to cut the ties that bind them...You and the baby should come first.
2006-12-29 16:51:45 · answer #8 · answered by jennie r 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most definitely...His priority lies with you now...If he still wanted to take care of her he should still live there..Just tell him how you feel and hopefully he can respect your feelings..Don't wait too late to discuss your insecurities
2006-12-29 16:52:56 · answer #9 · answered by shawn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah i would be . thats his ex and thats the reason why hes with you i would tell him to get his prioritys straight!!! that s@$! pisses me off
2006-12-29 16:54:45 · answer #10 · answered by honeybuzz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋