I feel too big to be 28 weeks!?

Question

I feel too big to be 28 weeks. I've talked about this with both my OB/GYN and my doula and they say I'm fine - I just have a big baby, but it's beginning to get annoying - people off the street say, "Having the baby soon, huh?"

I was at a friend's bridal shower, in my new maternity dress, feeling very pretty. The bride-to-be's mom comes up to me and quietly says, "Please don't bring the baby to the wedding - I really don't want a four-week-old baby crying in the middle of the service." I was shocked - the wedding was in February, meaning she assumed I was due in January, when in fact, I'm due in March!

Here's a picture of me in the dress I wore to the shower:
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Has anyone dealt with this? How? Personally, I'm proud of my belly, but other people's comments are really getting to be too much.

Answer 1

You look good and cute with the dress and belly.
i was in your position.my mom told don't worry about what they got to say.being pregnant should be a happy experience so i did i showed off my belly whenever i wanted.
show it off and who cares what they gotta say.

Answer 2

I completely back you up on this. If the ultra sound said your only having one than go ahead and believe it. You'd know if it was twins by now. And pregnant women are not "big", their beautiful. You are carrying a life, that is so so special. Be proud of that belly. Try not to let people get you down on your size. You dont need that pressure being pregnant. If this helps. My mother had two kids. I was 10Lbs 9Oz. 25 1/2 in long. I was a big baby. Yet se wasn't that big with me. My sister was 8 lbs 4 oz 21 inches long, and she was a house so-to -speak. I've been pregnant twice. One time at 5 weeks i looked like i was almost 3 months. The other time i was 5 months and i just had this little curve. It all depends. And if your having a big baby then be proud of that.

Answer 3

I like the dress! What a mean woman! I can't believe she would say that to you! I'm Sicilian so it's very easy for me to snap back, which I DONT recommend!!!
I can honestly tell you that you are not alone! I only gained a little over 20 lbs with my first (my son), with my daughter, I gained 60 lbs! Not just in my belly- all over!!! I'm at 39 weeks with #3 and I've gained about 40, which stinks! You're feeling unattractive as is and people's comments aren't helping!!! What helped me this time around was refusing to wear the maternity clothes- I know they are getting a little more fashionable now adays but I ended up looking much better with the next size up in clothing with empire tops~ but realize that the brides mom was just mortified that she couldn't pull that off when she was prego and instead was forced to wear the ugly Moo-Moo's they had back when!! Enjoy clothes you feel good in because with women like that out there you'd exhaust yourself trying to please everyone!
I would love to send you a maternity tee that says 'Bite Me' and have you wear that to the wedding!! HA HA Just kidding....

Answer 4

People are inconsiderate and don't think before they speak. You have every right to be proud, that woman was just a rude and inconsiderate *****. I'd of told her, well considering the fact that the baby isn't due until march, I don't think that will be a problem. But since you are so rude to assume and since its such a huge concern for you, I think I'll let your daughter know that I won't be attending her wedding as a guest and why. In fact, I believe I'll just take my shower gift and leave right now. Have a nice day.

Answer 5

I was the same way people would say to me oh your due any day and I wasnt due for 2 months You are just carrying the baby all out in the open LOL Good Luck and do be proud of your belly.

Answer 6

I went through the same thing its just that you might be having a big baby that likes to eat I'm 5'3 and Gained over 50 lbs and reached 213lbs at my labor date. She would not come out so I had a C-section. She weighed 8lbs 12oz. Before I was pregnant I was only 140lbs. People that are getting married are just stressed and weird. baby cry lets hope she'll understand later down the line

Answer 7

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Answer 8

For some reason people don't seem to mind being rude when you are expecting. From asking how much you've gained to are you having twins? I think you look fine for being 28 weeks and don't let the ignorance of others stress you out it's not good for you or the baby.

Answer 9

You look beautiful - truly beautiful! You have such a cute belly and I can't see why this woman would be so rude! You seem like a friendly person! If you and your baby are healthy, then you have no reason to feel embarrassed or even be harrassed because of your pregnancy.

Answer 10

We all carry babies differently. My friend was so tiny at 8 months everyone thought she was about 5 months so it does go both ways. If your doctor is fine with your size then you shouldn't worry. Don't let others make you feel large or anything because big babies are healthier than tiny. Good luck.

Answer 11

I was in a wedding at 28 weeks pregnant but I was a bit smaller than you but not much. You look adorable! Keep enjoying your baby belly...don't worry about others. you're luck to be a cute prego.