How do you get a man to do the housework?

Question

my bf is so busy at work he claims to be to knackered at the end of the day to do anything, but I work all day too.

Answer 1

Promise a reward for help - stockings and beer usually work best!
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Answer 2

You've got to communicate with him. Yelling and fighting and nagging are not forms of communication. Those are forms of harassment. Sit down with him. Get out some paper and start making assignments for each other. List what you do and what you expect of him. Have him do the same. You might be surprised at all he does, or not. He might be surprised also, or not. I don't want to be offensive. The fact is that neither of you are mind readers.
My wife wants me to work at home after working for someone else. She doesn't change the oil or monitor/maintain the vehicles. She doesn't change light bulbs. She doesn't maintain the computers. I have a nice list going. I don't do many things. By the time you add up the I do's and the she does, everything should get done. Really, I don't expect my wife to maintain the vehicles or lawn mowers. I don't expect her to do any electrical work. I just don't understand why she sometimes thinks that her different set of jobs is any harder than mine.
In the end, it's about management and budgeting. Manage and budget your time as individuals and a couple. Talk with one another. Write stuff down and plan. You might be surprised. There is a chance you will find yourself pretty well off. You can even try switching jobs/roles. He does your work while you do his. Stay away from anything which could be dangerous. Don't perform any work requiring knowledge you honestly don't have. Know your limits. If you get hurt, it won't prove anything.

Answer 3

I thought this was going to be a great joke. The I realised it was when you were serious about trying to get someone to do housework.

I have tried talking like adults about the situation, I have tried bribery, and I have even cried in front of my man when I felt so worthless after a days housework, but nothing works. My boyfriend has done the washing up once in the last 16 months, and that's the part of housework he's best at, so you can imagine what else he has contributed recently.

Answer 4

Hmmm...men are very skilled at playing a game. It's pure manipulation. You see their mother doted, then you in the early stages spoiled your man. Yep, you wanted to please him, show him that you would make a good 'mate.' It's eternal. That's all very nice in the beginning, but you have already ruined it, because he now knows you're quite capable. Now you need to undo the done, much harder than setting the game rules to start with.
Don't play anymore games, no tricks, no BS, just pure honesty. Stats show that when men and women live together the woman's load goes up but the man's goes down. He just stops, she tries to carry it all. Do you like doing the household stuff? Tell him the truth. If there is no understanding, hire a cleaner and bill him, or hire a housekeeper for you both and share the cost. Once the reality hits the hip pocket, it makes sense to a man. Everything is about supply/demand/money. You were not born with a sign on your forehead that said, "I have a vagina therefore I am chief cook and bottle washer." But you have to know it first.
Stop playing the servant game, because that completely takes away your desire to be sexy.

Answer 5

Rethink your question-I would never "get" a man to do housework. He does his share or more. My husband did, and now my boyfriend does (I left my ex-husband, not the other way around!). My boyfriend loves to cook, do dishes, clean, do laundry, etc so he does. I do grocery shopping, bills, and race to do dishes and laundry before he does...we both work full-time and are both tired..my secret? I have no standards..I don't care how the food is cooked, how the dishes are cleaned, don't care how the house looks, or how the clothes look-so anything my partner does, is absolutely wonderful! Lower your standards with this guy or find a new one who has higher standards than you..

Answer 6

the only way to get a man to do house work is to get with a man that is already domesticated enough to take the initiative. Perhaps your boy friend may change the way he feels about sharing in the responsibilities, or perhaps he does other things (which you dont do) to compensate. If neither of these things describe him, it maybe even more difficult for him to consider your feelings on the issue if you ever decide to get married. Its good to figure out what headaches you can avoid now instead of being disgruntled in marriage. Good luck.

Answer 7

When somebody doesn't want to do something, no amount of persuasion will do the trick.You cannot control another person, BUT! you CAN control yourself. That means, You do your OWN housework, NOT HIS! Let him wallow in the filth he leaves but you clean up yours. Put his dirty dishes on the side of his bed! Say you refuse to do his crap! He must help by doing all his own dishes and laundry, you do the vacuum and he must do the bath every other week. Other wise, tell him you just cannot live in a pig sty and MOVE OUT!

Answer 8

Get another, neutral man to do something minor. Like changing a light bulb on the patio, or changing a propane tank on the BBQ. Men are like dogs. Someone else comes into their territory, they defend it even though they couldn't care less. Or like babies. The little toy that rattles can be under the couch all day but as soon as another baby wants it, it's out of the question.

All in all, as a guy, I know, we're dumb and easy to manipulate.

Answer 9

I don't even have to ask mine..yours is obviously just lazy. you sytop doing it too cos youre knackered having worked all day too n see how he likes that.

Answer 10

I adore my husband he is great, but that aside we have had the same conversation for 7 years now. He wants me to tell him what to do & I refuse, I want him to see what needs done & do it. You & your BF need to talk & find what works for you. Let him know that you do work also & it isn't fair for you to do it all. I have learned to be more relaxed about a clean house. I have asked my husband to help clean up after dinner & he does that now w/o asking & on Sat. if I am cleaning he will help or at least offer.

Answer 11

Teach him about devotional service. (Bhakti) it is the only thing that got me do do anything in life. It is the process of doing all activity as an offering to God also known as Krishna, Allah, Jehovah, Vishnu, etc. If we make our home our temple then when we clean our home it is cleaning Gods home. We own nothing anyways. If one does all activities for God then they get no material Karma (reaction to our actions) one becomes complete satisfied and happy. go to krishnaculture. for all details Read Bhagavad Gita as it is By Bhaktivedanta Prabhupada it gives one the meaning to everything in life.