I don't get along with my in-laws!?!?????They are having a Holiday get together this weekend. I dont really want to go, but my kids haven't seen them in two years. I told my husband he could take the kids and go ,but he acts like I'm wrong for not wanting to go. Please help.....What should I do?????????????
2006-12-29 08:25:18 · 18 answers · asked by PHROGIN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for yalls help. I did go but they just acted like I wasn't there. No one talked to me and we left before everyone else did. My husband did thank me for going with him. Thanks again....if I need your help again I will make sure I ask!!!! Happy New Year!!!!
2006-12-31 15:17:59 · update #1
Come up with some really good reasons why you can't go or suck it up and just do it for the kids.
2006-12-29 08:27:44 · answer #1 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell your husband exactly why you don't want to go but you are willing to go if he will stand by you the entire time. He needs to understand why you are uncomfortable but you need to understand this is the only family he's got. Be supportive of each other. It's really unfortunate the kids haven't seen them for two years.
2006-12-29 08:54:54 · answer #2 · answered by CA DIVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For your children you should go... they don't need to see that you don't get along with them... let them see for themselves (as they get older) that the inlaws are bad... if you don't go the inlaws may say things about you and the children might hear... convince your husband to keep the visit short especially if your inlaws start in on you or whatever they do... Me personaly, I would want to be there with my kids to make sure they are subjected to anything I don't approve of... been in a simular situation and I know its not easy... suck it up and go its only what, a couple of hours.
2006-12-29 08:37:59 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some situations call for you to just dive in and be the best person you can be regardless of your situation. you married this man for better or worse....inlaws are typically the worse part of it. be the bigger person. you are there to be supportive to your husband and watch the kids some of the time so he can spend quality time with his parents/family. they wont be around forever, he needs time with them just as you need time with your family. if it were me i would go. dont let them goad you into an argument. think before you say anything you might regret. refuse to argue even if you disagree. show them you can be the bigger person. its 1 weekend out of your life, you will do fine. the only reason i would say for not going is if you have one of those husbands who will not stand up for you against his parents. if he is going to agree with them and make you look bad then you tell him that he can go alone or with the kids but you arent going. otherwise dive in and prove to them that you are wonderful. kill them with kindness. from experience, nothing ticks someone off more than finding out they cant make you mad. enjoy it.
2006-12-29 08:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by kristeena911 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go so you don't put your husband in a position to defend you. Just stay with your children and try to avoid talk that is upsetting you. Watch the game on TV with the guys and stay out of your MIL's kitchen.
2006-12-29 08:50:55 · answer #5 · answered by Mark W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either go and just be short and sweet and keep your distance spend most of the time with your husband or your kids to make time go by. Or at the last minute say you have a bladder infection (men never want details on that kind of stuff). He will most likely be kinda turned off by that and be ok with you staying home.
2006-12-29 08:28:57 · answer #6 · answered by chaneltaylor430 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-06 04:26:36 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your husband you don't enjoy being left out and treated like dirt. Tell him you have tried before to get along with them but you can't take it anymore. Let him be mad for a few hours because you didn't go. He should understand how you feel.
2006-12-29 08:33:15 · answer #8 · answered by live, love, laugh often! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
GO!! my parents always faught about this
they almost divorced can u imagine your husband with another wife taking your kids ??
because you didnt like a couple people ??
2006-12-29 09:24:03 · answer #9 · answered by JamesC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get along with mine either. They hate me because I took away they're "little boy". It makes me so mad. Grrr...Anyways, fake the flu or something..lol. Be honest with him, your not going to love everyone on this earth. Or you could go and just be civil, theres nothing saying you have to the worlds biggest sweetheart.
2006-12-29 08:33:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋