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i have been dating a married woman for 4 years and i have went the whole 11 yards with her now she is getting a divorce for us to be together without the drama of haviing her husband (who knows about it all) try anything... now my friends say that this is bad and i shouldnt have done it in the first place and that im a home wreck and all that... but i think that its both our faults if it is a bad thing she picked me basically... but my family thinks i should let her go because for one she was married when i started with her and she is 3 years older then i am... i think i should stay with her because of the love i have for her but i dont want the same thing that happend to her husband to happen with me... now im stuck so yall give me that good input on the situation please???

2006-12-29 08:19:30 · 6 answers · asked by Godson 3 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

6 answers

OK!! been there married that! i am more happy than i could ever know!!! i was married and not happy and started an affair. was it the best idea, no, was it hurtful and wrong yes. do i wish i would have done things better yes. but do i regret being with my 2nd husband ,never once not even when everyone i knew hated me. most of my friends were our(me and the ex's) friends so he got them. Not even when my mother chose him over me not when people came up to me in public and said crap to my face it all happened but we got through it together we couldn't go any where with out seeing someone who knew and would talk about us and believe it or not 11 years 2 kids and a lot of water later people still do but the point is if you love each other and can handle all the drama then stick it out and you will have each other.

2006-12-29 14:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by peterpansdate 3 · 0 0

If you love her then stay with her. Just because she had an affair with you while she was married doesn't mean she will have an affair with someone else once she is with you. Don't you think the reason she is leaving her husband has more to do with she is tired of cheating and that she loves you? Believe me, it gets old. Plus now is not the time to drop her unless you were only with her for sex. Stick with it and just see what happens. Good Luck to both of you.

2006-12-29 16:44:23 · answer #2 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0 0

I am in the same boat buddy and now my girl is asking for a divorce so she can be with me, do not listen to other people they will drive you insane, do whats in your heart and find trust in her, she is with you for a reason if she did not want to be with you she would have left a long time ago as for family they are just looking out for you and they don't want too see you hurt my girl is five years older than me and i don't care all that matters is that i love her good luck

2006-12-29 17:01:57 · answer #3 · answered by james g 2 · 0 0

Yes you should get married because she will do the same thing to you and you will feel what you have done to her husband.

The shame of this is on your head equally, you new what you were doing, don't lie to yourself. Ask yourself if you would be accepting of this happening to your daughter. After your daughter gets married and her husband was cheating on her would everything be OK?????

2006-12-29 16:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by Noka 3 · 0 0

love is all that matters. but you'll always wonder if she'll cheat on you. unless you two were meant to be together. go for it good luck.be happy

2006-12-29 16:38:43 · answer #5 · answered by nenet 1 · 0 0

Stay with her and if your happy together then the hell with everyone else.

2006-12-29 16:55:40 · answer #6 · answered by nascar f 2 · 0 0

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