im getting married in 2 days and i dont know much about the girl and thinking about what is going to happen the night after i get married is scary what shoud i do?
2006-12-29 08:13:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its an arranged marriage
2006-12-29 08:18:57 · update #1
i was scared to but in the end its all ok!
2006-12-29 08:15:33 · answer #1 · answered by no name. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a shame that you did not give yourselves more time to get to know each other. 1 month is not long enough to meet, be engaged and then married. Here in England, there is no time limit upon engagment, it is when the couple feel they want to and are ready to.
If you are unsure, then dont do it, give yourselves more time, after all, it is your lives at stake, no one else. I know a couple that are to be married in Jan, I am doing the wedding and they are in a rush because 1 month is nearly up. I find this totally unreasonable but if it suits them, well ok, but if it does not suit you, then dont.
2006-12-29 17:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by rockandrollrev 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to call off the wedding....Y do you think that the divorce rate is at 75%, because most people, including myself got married too quickly and the end result is not pretty. You could be one of the lucky ones but, I wouldn't take that chance. Ask another guy who has been through a divorce, the risk outweighs the benefits if it goes wrong.
2006-12-29 16:24:35 · answer #3 · answered by woodsman297 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your doing an arranged marriage...WOW...bizarre. But hey what ever floats your boat. Well she is pretty much your slave (i hate to say that because its totally unethical but its true) if you want some sex thats what youll get. If you want to just chill well than chillin is what you get. Since you dont really know her at ALL then id recomend take it slow to begin with so she feels comfortable. Dont be all over her like a animal in mating season that will probably turn her off since your a stranger to her. GOOD LUCK :)
2006-12-29 16:22:10 · answer #4 · answered by chaneltaylor430 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about the first night. It's your life ever after that really matters. On the first night, it is best to try to befriend the girl and just talk with her and try to get to know her. Don't hesitate to take your own time to be intimate. Talk to her. Tell her how you visualize your married life and what you want from your wife. Ask her what she wants from her husband. Praise her beauty/dress/jewellery/makeup. Ask her whether she is afraid or stressed about anything and not to worry about anything because you are there as her constant friend to welcome her and help her into the new life. you may tell her about the nature of your family members and ask her about the same. These casual talks with relax you both and provide a good base to your life together.
2006-12-30 04:30:09 · answer #5 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure she's as scared as u r if not more but, try and relax its about finding new love and falling in love with someone , try talking the first night and getting to know each other no one has to know what happened in the bedroom ..good luck
2006-12-29 18:01:34 · answer #6 · answered by amal L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go ahead as a normal human being, every thing will be okay.
Trust your instinct at this stage as you are on the final leg, do not get nervous things will work out best for you.
God Bless You and have a happy married life.
Just be aware that you are human and to err is human!!
2006-12-30 00:24:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i THINK YOU 2 should talk then and ask her,wait is this like a arranged marriage or something even if it is or isn't I think you should talk tell her how you feel and if she feels the same way then you should talk to each other about it
2006-12-29 23:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by Naja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming your arranged marriage is a religion-associated thing and you do not want to learn from sex books or watching **** you will have to enquire of your imam or Hindi priest.
2006-12-29 17:31:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you getting married if you dont know much about her?
2006-12-29 16:17:44 · answer #10 · answered by kilala_1977 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arranged marriage.......It's so odd. I guess your supposed to have sex with a total stranger. I hope she's not ugly or has foul body odor.
2006-12-29 16:45:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋