2 more months n it is stupid i m olny 20 whats is wrong with mee i wanted 2 be a teacher our a doctor n i can't be cause i pergant help me
2006-12-29 08:12:09 · 22 answers · asked by Ms.Sexy_4life 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
First of all, where does it say that you can't be a teacher or a doctor and have a kid? There is such a thing as online courses, daycare, etc. Secondly, unless you want to have all 20 guys DNA tested (which will cost a LOT) do one of two things - narrow down the list by who you were with around the time of conception, or assume that you'll be raising the baby alone. Then, get a battery of STD tests, get into school, and keep your legs closed.
2006-12-29 08:15:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't use a condom for 20 different guys you should be more worried about diseases!! Were you looking to get pregnant?? When you have sex with that many people un-protected then you had to of know the chances were good that you would get pregnant! i agree with every body else, you don't seem ready for a child and maybe the best thing to do is give it up for adoption. I too am a single mother, and let me tell you it is not easy, unless you want to test 20 different men which could take along time! Since me and my son's father were not married at the time and we both knew that was our child it still took 5 years to get child support since he would not cooperate! Only you can make a descion, no one else on this can. My only opinion that I have is that if you keep this child and do not plan on testing all the men then that isn't very fair to you child either to not be able to tell them! If I ever heard that from my mother I would probably be tramatized! Think about it, no one else can answer this exept you.
2006-12-30 15:13:44 · answer #2 · answered by Katie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, honestly I do not know if you're religious or not, but I think that maybe this happened for a reason. You need to slow down, now with you having a baby and all you'll have to. Keep the baby and grow up, stop sleeping around...not only is that not mentally healthy, but now you're child will have to suffer for the mistakes you have made. You can't go back, you can't change anything the only thing you have is now. Keep the child, and teach her the right way to live. You can still go to school, with the help of financial aid, there are too many resources for you to give this child at least a middle class life so you won't have to give it up for adoption....and talk to your parents...maybe they can offer you some good advice. If they can't, you may want to visit a local church, read the Bible, and pray you're head off. You can't live raggedy anymore because now you have a little person inside of you who is going to look up to you...and mimic everything you do. Do what's best for her.
My aunt is in her forties, she started having sex when she was 21 and she got pregnant right off, now she has six kids, by two different men, she continues to have sex, they are on welfare, and she has never been married. When you sleep around, the only person you hurt is yourself, and it does mess up your children. All 5 of my cousins act out from their upbringing...their mother was so busy chasing guys, that she never paid any attention to them.
If you want to give it up for adoption, maybe that would be better than keeping it, if you can't provide for it not only financially but emotionally. Adoption does things to the parents though, it's definitely something you should give much thought to. Pray about it. Everything happens for a reason, you just have to seek the reason for this. If you ever need to talk to anyone you can email me, and I'll pray for you honey. I wish you the best of luck. You have your whole future ahead of you.....it doesn't have to end here with or without the baby.
2006-12-29 08:31:14 · answer #3 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm think in your case the best thing you could do is put that poor child up for adoption. And get yourself back in school. Clearly you need more education. I think it would be a sad thing to have you raising a child when you cannot even manage yourself.
BTW--by the time you are 20 years old, you should be able to practice some self control, self respect, and at least know how to spell pregnant if you are going to have sex. Jeesh.
2006-12-29 08:17:32 · answer #4 · answered by Misty B 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i don't think of you have fallen out of love together with her. you have fallen out of love with your self. annoying financial cases are the actuality for many and on the horizon for something human beings. we won't all LOSE it now! now may be the time to adhere with those you like and comprehend that the human beings on your existence are wayyy extra substantial than your paycheck and investments. enable her comprehend the kind you experience and be the guy. Make a plan to your loved ones. comprehend that as long as you elementary needs are being met, and you have love for the different, you may proceed to have a happy existence. in the adventure that your spouse comes from a annoying historic past, she probably knows whats maximum serious. pay attention to her. artwork jointly to construct a sparkling existence if the previous one isn't there anymore. that's something we are all going to would desire to do. we would desire to alter our imaginative and prescient of what success is and get lower back to fundamentals. success to me is a happy, nicely balanced kinfolk who loves one yet another. not a gaggle of fabric issues. sturdy luck :)
2016-10-19 04:33:03 · answer #5 · answered by valda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is telling you to slow down and stop be so sexually active. But congratulations you're a new mommy to be. RESPECT you self to get a pap exam, std exam,HIV and everything else there is a lot on your plate and if you're up to it stick to your guns be more care full don't waste your life finding love true love comes in the form of not looking at all for it.
2006-12-29 08:19:45 · answer #6 · answered by memjabeana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, instead of being a teacher or doctor, you went the hooker route????
Please give the baby up for adoption. At least then it will have a chance at a normal, happy life. I don't think you are in a position to take care of a child.
2006-12-29 08:27:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
This is a time in which you go to family members for help and guidance. Do you know the names of the men/man you slept with within the period you got pregnant? You can call the Maury show for free paternity tests.
2006-12-29 08:17:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you can be whatever you want still , it will be a little more difficult with a child but not impossiable, and as for the father try to narrow it down on the days you ovulated and get those guys dna tested when the baby is born. you can always call maury he loves to help women in your situation. good luck
2006-12-29 08:15:04 · answer #9 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adoption. Give the baby up for adoption.
At this point you aren't ready for a baby, especially if you're slept with 20 guys. Give the baby up for adoption and help a family struggling with infertility that has plenty of love to give.
Sometime they will even pay for your medical bills.
2006-12-29 08:14:47 · answer #10 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋