Do you ever feel trapped in your own home??

Question

Does anyone ever feel trapped in their own home..??
Im a girl and my parents are very over protective. They log everytime I go out and have only one friend, where I work.

Im 22 and am doing a part time MBA at University so cant afford to move out. Im planning on visiting my friend in London (100 miles away) next week for 2 days. I feel sooo guilty because of what my parents will think. Should I be feeling this way?

I am indian and parents are very cultural........

Answer 1

if you were a young teen I would have to agree with your parents, as i am a mum to 3 young teens, but you are 22, you are a woman, and you have to live your own life. Your parents must respect this, as i think if they continue to treat you like a child, then you will start to lose respect for them.

Answer 2

Trapped? Wait until you get married and have a mortgage!

I understand Indian culture can be family-orientated. It's better than traditional British-caucasian (or whatever pc way you want to describe it) culture though - families care and don't shove the kids out through the door. Maybe you could talk to them about this, gently telling them that you are 22 and have always been responsible, what's going to change with a bit more leeway?

Answer 3

I live with my parents too. Sometimes I feel them as a big eye fixed upon my every move. It's natural to feel guilty since we tend to act different from what they expect of us as individual personalities. Every time that I realize this happens I try to stay true to myself and do what I think it's right no matter what my parents will say or think. It's not always easy and it doesn't work the whole time. Somehow, living with parents prevents us from fully growing up. Since you mention that you're Indian I can imagine that things must be harder for you. Hang up in there and try not to feel guilty. You deserve to live your life the way YOU want to and not your parents. It's high time we broke the umbilical cord.

Answer 4

Its a balance. My sister still lives with my Mum and she's... yeah she's 24.. almost 25. Oh and she's also just started full time employment as a solicitor at a top city firm.

She always tells my Mum where she's going - partly for safety reasons... cause my Mum loves her daughter.. and my Mum regularly checks up she's ok by mobile phone.

However there are limits.... you are 22 and you make your own destiny. One on side you should be grateful for your parents continue support (roof over your head)... but not to the extent to be restricted by them for reasonable comings and goings. Also you shouldn't feel guilty for your planned trip.

Act naturally about it..... perhaps just mention it to them in passing like its no big deal, and they might not try to put you on a control trip.

GL.

Answer 5

ye si do feel very trapped sometimes, im only 18 but already have my own place but my boyfriend makes me feel like i am not allowed out because something will happen so i have to be with him 24/7 i dont like it but i cant stop it. you shouldnt feel guilty at all everyone deserves their freedom no matter what their ethnic background and at 22 you are described as an adult in ALL countries. You need to take some control of your life whereas your family are looking out for you and only want to see the best for you so listen to them.

Answer 6

I am always trapped in my own home. I have nothing to do. My parents are the exact same way and they think they know what they are doing but they dont. I only have one friend also and I can never do anything with him because my parents dont trust me and so I have to stay home unless I am working. I can't go any were else.

Answer 7

it is okay to feel that way about certint hings but since you are an adult your parents should give you more rights. it would probubly be good for you to go visit your friend and just get some time to your self.
it is always good to have that alone time but you need to know that your parents just love you and want to protect you thats all. my parents were the same way.

Answer 8

Be open minded with your parents. Tell them you would like to spend 2 days time with your friend and you need a break. I know they will understand and we are now living in a changing world. Be modern go with the times. You are not living in India.

Answer 9

Act like a 22 yr old and be more assertive with your parents or they will never be able to let you go and youll be there little girl forever.

Answer 10

I feel trapped too. I had a sheltered life growing up and i now have crippling anxiety that prevents me to go further in life,it's tough. Consider yourself lucky you can at least go to university.