has anyone experienced a 3some and if so did it ruin your current relationshp or was it the best thing ever??? i want to but my husband dont!!! im actualy giving him a chance to screw another girl in front of me with my participation, and he doesnt want to ruin what we have so he says no to it!!
2006-12-29 08:04:07 · 17 answers · asked by me m 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
cant say i have, but you gotta be lucky that your husband loves you as much as he does, just about any man would jump on that opportunity... yours wont... thats a good thing.. i guess you dont ever have to worry about him cheating on you
2006-12-29 08:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by candyas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've never had a threesome, however it can go both ways. I've heard of some relationships being ruined, and some working out just fine. However, if your husband values you and your relationship enough to not go with it, well... I suggest that you leave it alone and take a deep look at you. I say this because, you may begin to venture out with other women or whoever in your relationship, which will be even more harmful. Some people still believe in monogamy and they don't want to complicate things by adding another individuals. However their are some that thing the more the merrier.
2006-12-29 08:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by sexxy_fem1000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had threesomes for years with my wife but I was always dressed as a female. I would bring home a guy or my wife would and I would watch as he did her while they would tell me that I was just a sissy which I know that I am. I have had others without here and they were always two guys or more and me dressed.
About 3 years ago my wife left she is bipolar. I have known since I was 14 that I was a female trap-ed in a mans body. I am now on hormones to grow my own breast and dress full time and am looking into SRS as soon as I can raise the money.
In the end this is a question you have ask your self. Are you willing to loose your husband over this? If not then don't do it.
Follow your heart and good luck.
2006-12-29 09:52:08 · answer #3 · answered by maidinheels 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well it seems like your husband is a good guy. You should be happy to have a man that cares for you and ONLY you. He is doing the right thing by saying no because he doesn't want to jeapordize your relationship. He is a smart man. If you were smart then you shouldn't even bring up the subject of a threesome unless you two were only dating and not husband and wife. (Unless of course he's into that sort of thing)
If you are so interested in a threesome then that means you are not sure you really want to be in this committed relationship and that you really want to accomplish this fantasy of yours. I would think about this and find out what you REALLY want.
Goodluck to you and Happy New Year
2006-12-29 08:11:42 · answer #4 · answered by Fantasy686 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same happened here. My husband didnt want to for years. He was worried Id freak out. Eventually we did. Thing is I like women! My husband never says or does anything that makes me feel uncomfortable or compared. he never says to anyone else that theyre sexy or have great assess or anything. Unless prompted. I have fun when we do this,rare as it is. Its exciting. We have a very strong relationship,were best friends. This is important before you "explore" like this. If he's the type to go out"with the guys" then this may not be good. My husband dosent go out. You need to set the rules ahead of time. And they need to be reasonable rules. You can have code in case one of you ant go on,then you both leave. This cant become a part of your life just something done on occasion as a treat but not what you "do" everytime you go out. Some relationships should NEVER do this,so be sure you can handle it.
2006-12-29 08:10:58 · answer #5 · answered by TrofyWife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been part of a successful 3 some in the past. It all depends on the individual personalities. But my current hubby does not want to participate in one so I feel you!
2006-12-29 08:08:18 · answer #6 · answered by Semi-charmed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could never do it. With or without permission I would feel like I was cheating and being cheated on at the same time. I'd prefer to keep sex inside the relationship. If he doesn't want to then don't pressure him, just because the idea doesn't bother you doesn't mean that it can't bother him. Sounds like you need to be a little sympathetic to his feelings.
2006-12-29 08:30:46 · answer #7 · answered by Rageling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once with a college roomate and his girlfriend. He did her while I did his behind. The other time was after a rugby party with two drunk dudes in the middle of the rugby field. Of course it was well after midnight. I don't recommend that. Mosquito bites in odd places are really annoying.
2006-12-29 08:18:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe for a single person it can be OK. If you're in a committed relationship it could cause alot of problems. If you decide to do it don't whine if your husband falls in love with the other woman and runs off with her.
2006-12-29 09:12:56 · answer #9 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I haven't because I'm not interested in doing so. I am happy in my committed, monogamous relationship. I do have a friend who was in a committed relationship who decided to try it....and it destroyed her relationship of several years. I think she's probably still be with her ex if they hadn't done that.
2006-12-29 09:40:09 · answer #10 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋