Hello. I have a very important question. Is it OK for a man to
date an 18 year old woman ? I met this one young lady, about
2 weeks ago. And we hit it off great. She really was in need
of a good friend. And it has paid off tremendously, as of lately.
Our communication is well, and if she has a problem, then
we talk about it. Seems as if my experience in life, has helped
her deal, with her demons. So, what do you think ? Is it fine
if a 30 year old man dates, and 18 year old woman ?
Let's go. May the best answer win.
2006-12-29 07:59:11 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes but dont expect it to last
2006-12-29 08:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by Alfred E. Newman 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
What a stupid comment above, the one saying you were 16 when she was 4. Think about it - when you will be 178 she will be 166. Not much difference then!
Age does not matter one bit. She is 18, she must know what she is doing and as long as her demons are okay with it ( :p ) then what the heck. However, for it to last it's got to be more than you being a shining white knight, solving all her problems. That stage can't ever last in a decent relationship. She's got to contribute to your life as well. Having said that, you probably realise this and this is just part of a stage in your relationship.
Let's face it, what 30 year old would not pass up the chance of a relationship with a young, pert, ....
Am stopping there for a cold shower! Seriously, good luck, the fact that you stop to ask a question like this proves you are a decent and thoughtful bloke.
2006-12-29 08:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by Andr 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally i think its fine but there are people out there that are going to criticize so therefore do watch out. If the girl and you feel that its a fine relationship then why not its a life that you 2 decide and share and if you guys have an understanding then great you guys can actually communicate rather than others which are like the same age and well it doesnt work... Having an older guy is also a good thing because a woman's outlook is much more mature so therefore sharing more thoughts with an older guy than a younger guy so i say why not...
2006-12-30 15:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by azn_wiz2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's so weird that I found this queestion, because I'm in the same situation. He is 30 and I'm 18 and we are hooking up, I guess would be one way to say it. It's so amazing because we did hit it off immediately, our personalities match very well and I'm excited with starting my life with him. I don't see anything wrong with it. Yes, there is the age gap, but if you both are dedicated to the relationship there is no reason that's going to become a problem. To other people it may bother them and I'm sure you'll have people speak their mind just like I know I'll encounter it, but what matters most is that the two of you are happy together and are building a relationship. So good luck, and I hope everything turns out well for all of us :)
2007-01-02 04:22:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that when 2 people are attracted to each other, age flies out the window. I should know...I'm seeing a man who's 20 years my senior and I never thought I'd be in that situation. But since you're asking, I'll also say...be careful that she doesn't stay with you just because she gets used to your support.... and that you don't stay with her because, in her eyes, you're more clued-up in the game of life. That's a big risk on both sides! However, you have a lot of time ahead of you, you'll both change loads in the years to come and pursuing a relationship will teach you a lot...don't worry about the age difference; just handle things as they come up.
2007-01-02 04:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by vincenzina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 12 years older than her. When you were 16 she was a four year old.
Yes your relationship can work, but its at the extreme fringe of acceptable. The problem is that she hasnt had life experience, and needs it before she can settle down. She can very easily put you into the role of "dad" and not "hubby". Dont try and force a mixing there.
Give her time to become at least 80% of your age. You are marrying someone who is only 2/3 your age, and they have developmental stages they must go through before they are ready to get all long term and stable.
2006-12-29 08:05:03 · answer #6 · answered by Curly 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Not an issue there at all, especially as women mature faster than men around that age. Nowadays age is less of an issue in a moral sense. as for it not lasting Fonz, dont write it off so soon.
I hope that your relationship continues as long as you r happy. Being the older man in a relationship (as I am) can help you share the knowledge you have gathered over the years.
Good luck to you guv. (Im 36 my wife is 22) and we are very happy.
2006-12-29 08:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think if it feels right for both of you, you should go for it. It's not that big a difference now anyway. As for the people who are saying it seems you're a father figure, I learn things from every relationship with everyone at some point so I think this is irrelevant.
I hope you're happy together.
2006-12-29 08:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by suicide_blonde1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think its appropriate. She is barely more than a child though she probably feels very grown up. Less than a year ago she was jail bait. You said she was "in need of a good friend". So be a friend. Give good advice. But don't take advantage of her vulnerabilities just because she feels emotionally rescued by you. Many young women just want someone to swoop in and help banish the demons that you spoke of.
My first thought in an age difference like this is: What in the world is wrong with this guy that he needs to get with someone so young? Why doesn't he have women his own age to be with? Gotta wonder...
2006-12-29 08:29:06 · answer #9 · answered by katme 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you both have clicked then yes its Ok. Women a more mature the men at the age of 18 so you are probably more able to meet her emotional needs. Just play it coll with the idiots who think other wise.
PS younger would be a problem your at the limit mate. But younger shouldn't appeal to you
2006-12-29 08:06:06 · answer #10 · answered by The Guru 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I do not see why not.
Obviously most 18 year old are not very mature, but they are adults!
It depends on you really; You're 30; You're the one with life experience...
So, if you don't mean to just use that poor girl, not that somebody else wouldn't, but if you're a decent guy, honestly, I don't see whyever not.
2006-12-29 08:55:32 · answer #11 · answered by Kc 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋