Not to mention the sole responsibility of finances are yours again, and if you don't work you have to get a job...etc...etc
2006-12-29 07:41:43 · 15 answers · asked by Hear2Help 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You wont find someone new while you're still married and you will cope on your own and be happier than you are in a marriage you hate.
Finances can be handled & theres always benefits if needed.
If the house is owned you are entitled to half and you're entitled to half of everything else anyway so immediately finances shouldn't be a problem.
I left my abusive husband in 2003, i was 5 months pregnant. Who the hell would want a single parent, living on government handouts, living back at her mums cos she was homeless?
I got housed by the council, lived on benefits and met my now husband, just when I thought my romantic life was over.
It can be done you just need to have the courage, self worth and confidence to do it.
2006-12-29 07:50:33 · answer #1 · answered by madamspud 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I haven't personally, but it does happen all the time. For example, if me and my wife divorced, she would be face to face with the issues you mentioned above plus we have 3 kids and a dog. Divorce is an ugly, ugly thing that some people would rather avoid at all costs, even if it means being in a marriage that isn't the best. Also, you get in routines that some people would find terrifying to break and have to create new ones. I can see things from both sides though. I mean, life is too short to be in an unhappy relationship.
2006-12-29 07:47:36 · answer #2 · answered by [><] Rebel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was married I was the one that always had a job unlike the ex. Half the time he wasn't home, was out running the streets and chasing women. I was married yet alone and finally said screw this, I'm outta here. As for finding another love, I love being single and finding someone else is not on my list of things to do.
2006-12-29 07:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had been married for 18 years before i divorced my now ex the last few years of the marriage were terrible i stayed with her for the kids but i think they suffered because of the tension between us and i also feared ending up lonely but she has now moved across the country to be with a new fellow i have now met a lot of new friends and we can now talk to each other without any bad feelings or stress our youngest now 14 has decided to stay with me as all her friends are around the area and has started her gcse work i am on benefits and haven't had to spend a penny on the divorce if your not happy get out now things wont get any better
2006-12-29 08:28:22 · answer #4 · answered by orvill67uk 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is what they call a marriage of convenience. Its a tough pattern to break, but can be done, just ask me. Been there done that. Your own happiness is what you make of it. You may have to get a job and work hard but hey, at least you can say you gave it a shot. Getting a new job can also open a whole new world of friends for you and lesson your chances of being lonely.
2006-12-29 10:10:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mum asked my dad for divorce she wasnt at all scared of being alone but she actually was really concerned about my feelings.
So NO if any1 would do this then allow me to say They are so silly.
You go live your life
Be independent
Dont depend on some1 who mistreats u and keep it up with him because you fear not to find another love.
Be nice
Friendly
Decent
And people will love you and You WILL be loved by EVERYONE
YOU GOTTA BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.
2006-12-29 07:52:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce has not ever entered my mind since I have never worked outside my home eversince I got married. All our home expenses were shouldered by my husband and we take it for granted that it should be that way. If we have disagreement we work out a solution for it.
2006-12-29 07:59:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. It is scary but I am happier now than I was married. There is a difference to being alone and lonely.
2006-12-29 07:45:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No I would rather get the divorce.
2006-12-29 07:43:14 · answer #9 · answered by The_Game 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have thought about it but never acted on it for fear of raising my child alone. that would be scary for me and hard for our child.
divorce is a huge change and that in itself is scary.
2006-12-29 07:45:05 · answer #10 · answered by miss lady 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋