I have a serious problem about meeting someone new. Normaly I'm a very friendly person and want to meet people. I always face this fear that whenever I meet someone new as if he/she is judging me that I'm not a smart one or they can read my mind. How can I get through this? And by saying new people doesn't mean I'm looking for someone, I'm happily married but I need to overcome this fear for my job related issues. Can anyone please help me?
2006-12-29 07:22:59 · 6 answers · asked by lonelyt 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
that is a very common problem,a very good book which will help you allot is called how to win friends and influence people.Try finding that book in your library or amazon.com.It gives good tips on how to overcome this.The fear is a very irrational fear of rejection or failure,which will not happen.If you can change your thinking you can overcome your fear.You could also have a touch of anti-social phobia or a panic disorder so counseling may be needed. Good luck to you!
2006-12-29 07:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know if this will help you, but it did help me. I used to be very shy with very low self esteem and I just decided I wanted to be more likeable, so I made myself face my fears. I made myself go to karaoke and sing in front of others and at first I was shaking everytime I did that, However, eventually I got over my shyness and fear of being judged. I just had to keep working on it. If I felt like I was too stupid on any topic I took my spare time and did some self educating. I would research things on the internet and find interesting facts that I could then bring up in later conversations. Mainly it helps to not take yourself so seriously, because nobody is anywehere near perfect.
I think it's fair to say now that I still can be a little shy, but it's not as extreme. I definitely like who I have become, and I know I can do anything I set my mind to doing.
I also learned that people are not judging you as much as you think they are, and if they are, they are the ones who need to do some serious self evaluating.,,,Not you!
I hope you can overcome it. It will be hard, but it is worth a try.
If it matters to you, I don't even know you and I like you so far.
Good luck!
2006-12-29 07:39:17 · answer #2 · answered by Cuppycake♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you have what's called Social Anxiety Disorder and it's very common. Exactly what you described is typical of this disorder. If you are really concerned you can speak to your doctor to get you some medication to help. Otherwise you can take part in therapy that focuses on social skills. Godd luck!
2006-12-29 08:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by La-Te-Da 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, you got married, you cant be that shy. Take some NLP courses on visualizing. Can you imagine the ultimate fantasy version of yourself? make it real in your mind, down to the smallest detail. then act it out
2006-12-29 08:14:17 · answer #4 · answered by undrgrndhiphop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem to be very critical of your self for no good reason. what is it about your self that makes you feel inferior? don't worry so much into what other people are thinking about you. just be yourself and accept who you are, you will find that others will see you in the same light.
2006-12-29 08:14:45 · answer #5 · answered by cvgm702 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get Drunk.
2006-12-29 07:32:01 · answer #6 · answered by robcowiemustdie 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋