ive just found out im pregnant. it was planned but the fear that has hit me is consuming me im out of control?

Question

this happened before and led me to ending pregnancy.im terrified of it happening again. i have been prescribed tabs for anxiety... i dont like the idea... what else can i do & is this normal... i dont feel normal... please please help

Answer 1

i went through similar when i was pregnant. i was on anxiety medication as i'd suffered a nervous breakdown the year before.. u are bound to feel nervous at the moment - thoughts of what all of this will mean to your life will be going through your head, as well as all the painful memories that it'll drag up of your last pregnancy. and the changes in your hormones will make u more prone to feeling very emotional. just try to ease up on yourself. accept that this is a totally different pregnancy, that it was planned, and that u will do your best to be a good mother when the time comes. when u get very negative thoughts in your head, remind yourself that your emotions & hormones are all over the place at the moment, and that it's quite normal to feel this way. you're not perfect - no one is - all we can do is try our best. whatever u do, don't dwell on the thoughts of termination. i'm sure that you know already that it would totally screw up your mind if u ever did go through it. as for the medication, i slowly reduced my medication over a period of 3 or 4 months. give yourself a couple of weeks to get used to the idea of being pregnant, and when u've hopefully calmed down a bit, talk to your doctor about maybe making a slight decrease in the dose, and just keep doing that every 3 or 4 weeks. your natural levels of Dopermine (your body's own 'happy chemical') increase during your pregnancy, so hopefully u will feel calmer as your pregnancy progresses. i know i felt calmer during the last 6 months of my pregnancy than i had done in about 2 years ! good luck, leave me an offline IM if u ever need to talk to someone, or u have any questions. take care. x

Answer 2

Pregnancy is very scary and I think you are perfectly normal. If it was planned and you indeed want the baby, embrace this time in your life because its amazing. I'm pregnant with baby number two now and I know the initial fear of how are we going to afford this, what am I going to do, am I going to be able to handle a baby, etc. can go on and on and on. You're in the situation you're in because it was meant to be that way. While there are many scary things about being pregnant and raising a child, there are also so many wonderful things that you don't want to forget either. Feeling a baby move inside you is the most amazing thing... and after birth seeing what you have grown and created... there's nothing that can compare. My first daughter is 2 now and I love just watching her play and grow and see her personality emerge. I think it will only continue to be as wonderful as she gets older. I believe that there's never more on your plate than you can handle and I'm sure you'll do just fine. Relax and enjoy!

Answer 3

First of all many congratulations. Your hormones are going mad right now, try to chill out. I know it sounds hard but it is best for you and baby. You are a miracle and so you have to treat yourself. You are special, so be special. Relax and take time for you. Pregnancy is tough, I know I have been through it 6 times, but you can enjoy it. Please don't let any one demean you. I know pregnancy is not an illness but it can cause some very strange side effects. I felt very odd with number four, but luckily I have a very supportive huband who accepted I was a bit off my trolley. Find a class, you will be amazed how normal you really are, some women are totally loopy!! I wish you all the best and hope this pregnancy is everything you want. Love always. Happy New Year.xx

Answer 4

Keep taking the tablets if they are helping. i too suffer from anxiety and know how it feels. I felt nervous when i found out i was pregnant but trust me it will past. You are completly normal feeling like this. Try a few websites the ladies on there are lovely and many are going though the same as you are now. I was a bag of nerves untill 6 months and when i felt my baby first kick my mummy vibe kicked in and i enjoyed the rest of my pregnancy. good luck and i hope all goes well. Feel free to email me as i have been though the same

Answer 5

You have to remember that pregnancy has a massive affect on your body chemistry, so not feeling normal..... is normal! Really it is. Try to do without the pills - more chemicals is just what you don't need right now, but they will be handy to keep for emergencies.

Think that a new life is beginning inside you - how magical is that? And examine exactly what it is that you're afraid of - it won't be that bad you know - it never is.

Answer 6

it is normal to feel this way. My daughter who is pregnant now had the same feelings in the beginning. relax, take it easy and look at the positive of pregancy. also talk to someone, the father of the baby, parents or a friend. There are also groups that meet to help deal with feelings during pregnancy. Look in your phone book for info on help line. The more you fret the worse it is for you and the baby. Remember you are caring a life, its your little miracle. Smile and rejoice

Answer 7

Honey its perfectly normal to feel frightened
Its the most scary thing a woman can go through,
Its also the most wonderful yet confusing time-
Your body and your mind will adjust to all the changes-
However I really don't think that tablets are the answer.
I think talking to someone would be better, or perhaps pure relaxation.
Its perfectly natural to have these confusing thoughts and I can asure you that most of us go through it.I know I certainly did,
You are normal,
I suffered the most hurrendous post natal depression but now one told me that you could get it pre-natal too.
Keep going and look forward to the minute when you hold your beautiful baby

And rest.

Answer 8

You are perfectly normal. Im now pregnant after trying for a long time and being told I wouldn't conceive without help. I feel exactly the way you do, panicky, terrified, one minute I want to be a mother the next I don,t, its perfectly normal and its all down to your hormones. Please confide in your GP or midwife. They will also reassure you that its all normal.
Congratulations, I wish you all the best

Answer 9

you are bound to feel like this. Some people do and some people dont. Im 17 weeks pregnant and i had been tryin to get pregnant for about a year. I wanted so much and then it happen i was really scared. But now im so happy i just dont like my partner,ha. Just enjoy it

Answer 10

Yeah, pregnancy and post partum period can be an emotional roller coaster. Hormones can reek havoc. try some basic relaxation techniques like meditation and deep breathing. Try to isolate what it really is that is freaking you out. Don't worry, you'll be a great mommy! especially if you have a supportive partner, lean on him when you need to.