my husband is tryiing to get the court to grant him 50/50 joint physical custody of our 6month old baby and 6 yr old. he has a diagnosed anxiety disorder, panic disorder, and narsasistic tendancies. we've been in counceling but i don't know if that will help my case. i know he's just doing this because he wants out of child support. which i don't even care about. he's a semantic narcissist. how can i feel rest assured that he will not get my kids 50/50. he can be so convicing that he's got his life together, but doesn't. he has alcohol dependancy issues, but i'm still afraid that if he say he wants this he will be given it. he's been trying to better his case since i filed by all of a sudden trying to show is face at school and has been buying our 6 year old gifts every day. trying to get him to like him better than me...this is so upsetting because he's not a good parent. he's SELFISH! and is more concerned about him self and money above the kids. What can i do?
2006-12-29 07:10:09 · 6 answers · asked by goodtalkin' 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Make sure that your lawyer brings up his problems in court.If it looks like the judge is going to go for it.Ask the judge to please give you the courtesy of at least having a court appointed therapist evaluate him.Play on his problem with Alcohol.Try to convince the judge that you are concerned for your child's safety.Research cases in your area concerning parental abuse find out if there has been any especially high profile ones in your area with a parent have similar problems has your ex.Play on the judges fear of being the bad guy called into the public eye if your child get injured.If you are truly concerned for your children's safety then no amount of dirty play is to much.Your kids are to important.But if you are just angry at your ex and you know he won't hurt them then you need to let things die down or the judge could think that you are the one with mental problem.Good Luck!
2006-12-29 08:11:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probabaly the only reason he is screwed up with all these disorders is because of what you put him through while you are going through this divorce. I do not know if it was the fact that in the morning, you told him you loved him, and when he came home early from work in the afternoon, he caught you in bed with the cable guy, or what you did to screw him up, but at least give him his dignity back and let him have his children that he loves so very much. Honestly, if you were the one who left the relationship, maybe you should be the responsible one and give up your half with the children, seeing you have no family morals anyhow. As for his disorders, once he pulls his life back together, I am sure that he will be fine. Until then, stop trying to control him since you are no longer his better half. Quite honestly, you have became his worst nightmare. There is nothing wrong with this guy, other than you screwed him up when you thought your marriage vows were meaningless.
2006-12-29 07:16:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would personally recommend talking to someone about this first. I dont think that he would be able to win in court because of his conditions. From what I have read about him, he is not fit to have 50/50 custody. If he can win custody with all that is wrong, something is terribly wrong with the courts. You should not be too worried about it.
2006-12-30 03:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by young grown man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the best site I know for assistance for moms who are under custody threats from abusers and other wackos.
http://www.custodyprepformoms.org/
2006-12-30 02:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by silverside 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need a lawyer and maybe a private investigator
2006-12-29 07:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by Sabine É 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's still Dad.
2006-12-29 07:15:44 · answer #6 · answered by sky 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋