I suspected that my wife had been fooling around, and when I confronted her with the evidence, she denied everything and said it would never happen again.
Should I believer it?
2006-12-29 06:57:38 · 54 answers · asked by cryingrainbow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she said it would never happen again, then it had to happen at least once. So, she did cheat??!!
2006-12-29 06:59:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Man, this is very difficult situation to handle. You are going to suffer if you continue to live with her. This picture of her cheating on you is hard to be removed from one's mind.
Besides, If she dennied and later accepted it because of evidence, then it is difficult to blieve in her.
she may be some kind of scared to say that it wont happen again, but this cant replace the feeling of respect and love in a relationship.
It is also up to you to deal with the matter on a human basis because you have always the chance to frogive and start a new.
If you still love her, tell her that she must prove her love to you and to restore the relationship.
you are not going to look for new evidence or to chase her to make sure. If she want to prove, she knows how to do it.
Good Luck, Just be patient
2006-12-29 07:14:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She denied it then said it would never happen again? How can you never do something again that you deny doing in the first place?
You know her and we don't. If you love her, give her a second chance. If she does it again, then you will never be able to trust her again. If you do give her a second chance, that means you need to act like the first time didn't happen. Don't bird dog her to try to catch her doing it again. If you are going to give her a second chance and then start playing Dick Tracy on her, you might as well just break the marriage now, because you will push her into someone else's bed because she will get tired of your insecurity.
2006-12-29 07:06:45 · answer #3 · answered by PDH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Problem there with her response. If she denied anything happening, how could it never happen again? Are you trying to get her to tell the truth so you can try to repair the relationship? If you're not, what is the point of doing it if you have evidence?
2006-12-29 06:59:48 · answer #4 · answered by UNI Panther 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a question only you can answer. The easy answer is to dump her. The more thoughtful approach would be to ask her why she did it in the first place. What, in her mind, is lacking from your relationship? Sit her down and talk about it. Then and only then, should you make your decision as to dump her or keep her around. She has to be willing to take responsibility for her actions and prove to you that she is trust worthy again. If she doesn't want to or doesn't want to talk about it or is unresponsive to your inquiries, then dump her sorry A S S! Good luck to you - I hope things work out for you.
2006-12-29 07:05:06 · answer #5 · answered by [><] Rebel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 10:46:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard one that many of us go through. You need to figure out in your heart if you can forgive and forget. You also need to find out why she was seeking the affection of another. Where are you in the relationship? Is it worth giving it another try? As hard as is it to believe, there are other people out there. You may hurt if you leave, but you also may realize that you are happier in your own life without her. I would say there are problems if you suspected she was cheating and sought out the evidence to prove it.
2006-12-29 07:06:32 · answer #7 · answered by BMW BFD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She denied everything and said it wouldn't happen again? How is one consistent with the other?
Does your wife have a history of lying to you about other things, big or small? If she does, then you have a reason to doubt her.
Trust your instincts and do what you think is right.
2006-12-29 06:59:52 · answer #8 · answered by Jeff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
On the one had she denied it yet said it would never happen again. She's a liar and a cheat. You either cut your losses or work on fixing the marriage knowing that this could happen again.
Good luck
2006-12-29 07:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you know if you could ever trust her again. Without trust, a relationship has a much higher chance of failing. There is, of course, also the health issues to be raised. If she really did have an affair, she needs to be tested for STDs (it's that whole "you sleep with everyone they slept with" kinda thing).
Best of luck to you....I know how hard it is when the person you love betrays that trust and love.
2006-12-29 07:11:49 · answer #10 · answered by SUSAN N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask your self is your proof 100% truthful. If your 100% certain and she is denying it, then she is still going to cheat on you. If she can't admit to it and try to make things work then she is not sorry for what she did. In this case you have to realize what is important to you. If she is not telling you the truth then there is no trust. How can you have a relationship with out trust? Be truthful to your self. You can love her with everything you are, but you can't stop her from doing what she is going to do.
2006-12-29 07:04:47 · answer #11 · answered by Val 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋