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2006-12-29 06:53:59 · 20 answers · asked by Cathy A 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
The book "I'll hold you in Heaven" by Jack Hayford or a similar book about pregnancy loss.
2006-12-29 06:56:25 · answer #1 · answered by jilldaniel_wv 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A sorry for your loss card, but better yet a shoulder to cry on. She will need to vent her anger and her hurt. She will need to mourn this life that only was for a short while, and she only got to know how wonderful a life it really was. Others may be mourning but hers will be worse. This baby lived and died in her. She knew this baby unlike anyone else did. So offer your shoulder and ear. Do not tell her she can have another or anything else like that. Yes she can have another, but that is just it, it is a different baby. She can never have that baby back. You would not tell someone who lost an infant to replace them with another don't tell her that either. Tell her you are sorry you will not get to know this baby and how wonderfull it would be to have know them. Talk to her like he was a real baby not something that isn't real. I miscarried he was a real baby to your friend, and some people end up being cruel by trying to ease your pain. They say at least you didn't get to know them, maybe something was wrong, ect. Do not do this. Her pain is real acknowledge to her that you know this, and are there for her. Then when she feels up to it take her out, somewhere without baby stuff or a lot of babies, so she can try and have a good time. You sound like a great friend. Hope I could help. Good Luck to you, and so sorry for your friends loss.
2006-12-29 15:23:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A sympathy or thinking of you card with a Starbucks or other gift card in it to help her get out of the house (when she feels up to it) and start to feel more normal and like herself again. Maybe a calling card if she uses long distance to talk to friends and family, so she can call for a listening ear when she needs it.
2006-12-29 14:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by Shawnee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't give a gift, but a nice card giving your sympathy would be nice. And add that you are there for her, and if she needs anything to just call. Maybe take her out for a day of shopping and lunch a while later, after things calm down. Good luck...
2006-12-29 14:57:13 · answer #4 · answered by Lindsay M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A sympathetic ear and a shoulder to lean on, if she wants it. She may just need time alone. If she has other kids or pets offer to take them out for the day to give her some time. You might want to provide a meal, drop it off and leave if she is not up to talking. Offer to run errands or clean up around the house for her. Remember you don't have to say much or anything for her to know you care and are there for her.
2006-12-29 14:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by bugjrmom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could do a sympathy card, but that seems too sad to me. I'd buy a pretty blank card and just write that you're thinking of her. A little token gift to cheer her up would be nice....maybe a gift cert for a mani/pedi..? Something to treat herself with
2006-12-29 14:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't give a card or any gift of sympathy. It doesn't help. How about offering an ear or shoulder to cry on? Don't even push that issue. Having a miscarriage is heartbreaking, to say the least. I have been there twice and just wanted time to myself.
2006-12-29 14:57:45 · answer #7 · answered by Tami C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just get a "sorry for you loss" card, they have all kinds of them. You don't want to get anything too specifiec, or write anything that might break her heart. But just let her know you're there for her, and feel her pain. I know it's a horrible thing to go through, I am so sorry for her!
2006-12-29 14:56:54 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would've like a fun dinner or something to get my mind off of things. That 's what she really needs. She is going to be thinking about this every second of the day for a while... so get her out to have some fun... or at least get her mind off of it. Preferable a pregnant women free place! It seems like everyone is pregant when you miscarry!
2006-12-29 15:05:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't...I know you want to be there for her, but right now she is going through a time in her life where she needs to be alone. There is nothing that you can buy then friendship. When she is ready she will talk to you, but buying her something will just remind her of what she doesnt have.
2006-12-29 14:56:04 · answer #10 · answered by just_acali_girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋