Im 21 and have no one to talk to. I spend most of my days on my own....what am i doing wrong?
2006-12-29 06:52:57 · 20 answers · asked by colleenbloomfield 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hi i feel like that alot i feel i have no friends, for me it because i have alot of responsibility at home and don't get alot of time to go out, i would love to be friends with you feel free to email me
( its on my yahoo profile ) xx
2006-12-29 07:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes what are you doing wrong, my guess is that you do not go out very much, that you don`t belong to any clubs or educational classes, or church organisations. You must have had friends at school, are you still in contact with any of them? Do any people your age live near you? What about work, do you have a job? If so isn`t there anyone there? If you live near a park, babies and dogs are a very useful `tool` to meet people, can you borrow either and take them for a walk in the park.? You really must make an effort, instead of spending the days alone go out , talk to people say good morning. All else failing you can always go to a dating agency/web site. These really are the 21st. century way of making friends, I do wish you luck.
2006-12-29 15:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by Social Science Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're probably very shy, and the only way to cure that is by going out to meet people.
I had to do it myself a few years ago;
I was awfully shy. I just got divorced, am French and had no body to go out with.
Well, it was quite hard at first, since I don't drink either.
But, I kept going, to the pubs, night clubbing and still not drinking, and also, I tried to enjoy myself, force myself to talk to people.
It did me the world of good.
I am a little bit shy still, but much more confident obviously and do have a few but true friends, and quite some acquaintances.
It helped me build my self esteem and confidence.
You should also try some dating sites.
Not necessarily to find a partner, but chatting will make you a bit more daring, and will also help in real life.
Go on.
Give it a try, and good luck.x
2006-12-29 16:11:45 · answer #3 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have troubles with the same thing, all through my childhood the only friend i had was my dog and i became deluded and needed mental help which lowered my chances of getting a friend.
I have friends now, only because i learnt to communicate with other people. Just be yourself, noone can do it better than you can.
If people don't like you for who you are then they're not worth the effort, i'm sure you're a perfectly good and decent friend, you just need to get out there and prove it.
Using the internet is a fantastic way of improving and learning new and different social skills, if you need anyone to talk to, don't hesitate to contact me.
2006-12-29 15:00:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
One will have to get to know you before judging anything about you and why you dont have any mates.Its very easy to identify with you,for starters i think it would be a good idea to allow IM,if you havent already,that would help in breaking the ice and you can take it from there.I think you fear rejection which is a common factor amongst people who are friendly yet dont have any friends,my advise would be ..reach out,theres plenty of fish in the sea!
2006-12-29 15:12:43 · answer #5 · answered by ytee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to get out there! You won't get any mates if you don't go anywhere to meet them. Do you work? Try and strike up a conversation with someone. Join a few clubs, you're bound to end up talking to someone. Join a few sites, like myspace to get a friendship going. Then maybe one day you could meet them.
2006-12-29 14:57:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get out there. u r 21 so how about going to college? join a club or take some kind of class like art or something?
2006-12-29 14:56:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spending most of your days on your own is what you are doing wrong.
Go to the gym, go join a club, go speed dating, go on friends re - united - join up at a salsa class, go to college, get a job - DO SOMETHING!
2006-12-29 15:19:49 · answer #8 · answered by Just me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i guess it's just a case of gaining some confidence and going out, spending time in your town or city and putting yourself in social situations. Maybe join a night class at your local college or something, so you can partake in something that interests you, and it will also give you the opportunity to meet people who have some similar interests to you.
2006-12-29 14:56:23 · answer #9 · answered by fozz89 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must go somewhere on a daily/weekly basis where you meet people? If so, chat to them, make small talk or just listen to them chatting for a bit. We are strange and selfish creatures, we like others to listen to us and any problems we have. If you can listen they will take to you. You then build a bond, friendship and share things together.........
.............You need to take focus off yourself when you chat to people. Don't be self conscious (to an extent), people are too bothered about how they appear externally so showing the ability to have empathy and make them feel at ease and comfortable is an excellent quality..........good luck.................
2006-12-29 15:03:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
have u a job?are there people there u could befriend?are u in college?same answer.
if not,and u are unwell or lack confidence join a club..something u like doing..amateur drama,art,music,sport..be yourself and listen to others,chill and wear a smile,you'll find u'll make pals.many people feel similar so dont feel alone..things et better.your new year resolution should be do join things
2006-12-29 15:09:02 · answer #11 · answered by paulpoulboy. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋