A bunch of my friends are either engaged, married or married and are having a baby. One of my friends was like omg were all getting so old and starting are own families now., OMG I'm only 23 yrs old. Were not freaken old! I have a bf and those comments make me feel like I need to get on the ball of making a family of my own. This April will be our 2 year. Got any advice for me?
2006-12-29 06:35:50 · 14 answers · asked by shy girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
just do what you want to do
2006-12-29 06:38:31 · answer #1 · answered by Mandy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been dating this guy for 2 years? That's an eternity in the dating world. Are you guys stagnant or what? Is there any motion or momentum to the relationship? Also, having several kids myself, I wouldn't wait to long to have them, if you do in fact, want them, because it is TOUGH!!! It's a lot of work and I don't see how people in the upper 30's and 40 can cope nearly as well. That being said, you still are young and I wouldn't rush into anything just because your friends are. Go at your own pace - the worse thing to do is follow someone else's pace and you feel that you've missed out on things. Good luck.
2006-12-29 14:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by [><] Rebel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time and do what's right for you when the time comes. You need to remember that when you get married and have children your life does change. Maybe I'm selfish, or not the "right" point in my life, but right now (I'm 29 and in a committed relationship) I do enjoy having the freedom to come and go as I please, and not have to worry about getting a sitter. I've had so many people around me complain that they can't do this or that because they can't find a sitter....and forget anything spontaneous!!
Of course it's a personal choice, but just do what's right for you and not what's expected from you cause everyone else is doing it a certain way.
2006-12-29 14:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by photogrl262000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let everyone around you influence what you and your boyfriend decide to do. Don't rush into something you aren't ready for!! Just because everyone else is getting married or having a baby, doesn't mean you have to. Do what feels best for the two of you. Don't try to impress anyone and don't worry about age. Twenty-three is NOT old!!
2006-12-29 14:40:04 · answer #4 · answered by Charlene L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever you want!! Don't worry about what your other friends want to do, just do things at your own pace. maybe they might be ready to go out and start a family but you are not so why make such a huge decision that has the possibility to ruin your life and your BF's life too because of your friends?
2006-12-29 14:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by ~Stephie~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time! Don't rush into things just because you are feeling peer pressure, and join some clubs to meet people who share your interests, and you'll find some new friends who aren't in a hurry to get married....I know, joining clubs sounds so...well it sounds either really young, like kids, or really old like my grandma, but you know what I mean, get out there and meet people who want to take their time as well.
2006-12-29 14:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because your friends are married, engaged, or soon to be having babies doesn't mean you have too. Everything happen for a reason and when the time is right it will happen for you too.
2006-12-29 14:41:03 · answer #7 · answered by Marina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing to cope with. You already have it figured out. You are NOT old and you arent missing out on anything. Never rush into things cause everyone else is already there.
It will come naturally. So my advice to you is stick with your mind that you are NOT old..at least I hope not cause Im in my 30s and I dont feel old yet..!
2006-12-29 14:47:02 · answer #8 · answered by chiara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and don't rush into marriage. It'll come when it's meant to be. I think between the ages of 26-32 is the ideal time for marriage, but it'll come when and if it's meant to be. Don't worry, enjoy your time with your bf and have fun while you're young.
2006-12-29 14:40:45 · answer #9 · answered by Kiara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live your life the way you want to. Dont rush yourself into something.. You are ONLY 23, you have so much time ahead of you.
Have fun and be happy, life is too short to worry about what other people are doing!!
2006-12-29 14:39:53 · answer #10 · answered by slim27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy life. Never compare you life to someone else's. 23 is not old at all. Take your time, because those same girls may be envious of your lifestyle. So don't worry about them and take one day at a time.
2006-12-29 14:42:29 · answer #11 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋