Please don't bash, I am looking for advice, lessons learned, and hopefully some positive stories.
2006-12-29 06:25:16 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Learn all that you can about his religion and customs. Also be sure that he learns about yours as well. You both should discuss, before you get married, how you plan to raise your children (will it be your faith, his faith, or teach them both and let them decided what they want to believe when they are older). What are things that you both will be able to compromise on and what are deal breakers? Dietary restrictions are usually set in stone . If you are a practicing Muslim, there is no way around it. What are you going to do about holidays such as Christmas? Ramadan? What about certain expectations he will have of you as his wife under the Muslim culture?
Here's my thought. You would need to have this type of discussion anyway even if it was not about religion. You come from two different families so already there are things that you will need to blend into your new families.
If you are going to make this work, make sure that you have the tough discussions first BEFORE you get married.
2006-12-29 06:46:40 · answer #1 · answered by A M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are marryiing a muslim man, are you going to convert? I would think you would have the best chance of happiness if you did. Also, if you have children, having two parents of such differing religions will be extremely hard on them. How deeply do you believe in your religion and he in his? Will not one of you convert to the religion of the other? There is just all kinds of pitfalls in that combination, sorry to say. If you are not going to convert, and neither is he, then I would say before you get married, get to know all there is to know about the nation of Islam. Understand what you are getting yourself into and how he belief system differs from yours and learn exactly how devote his beliefs are. Knowledge is power, and you need all the knowledge you can get here. Be informed so that after your marriage you do not encounter any surprises. Also, search the past questions here... I believe I saw some posts on this exact subject not long ago.
2006-12-29 06:35:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must be using the word christian lightly. If however you are and want to continue to be a strong christian women, you should probably do some thinking about it all. Without getting to religious on you it says that you should not marry a non christian. Also not to mention how hard your life will be with raising children etc. If your religion is more your heritage than a daily devotion then just let it all go!
2016-03-28 23:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to be a rough road. Is he truly muslim? Does he believe a woman must be submissive to her man completely? If so, are you willing to live that way? Really? You asked us not to bash because you know this is a very tough subject and you know the problems you face. I hope you find what you are looking for and I truly wish you the best of luck. It can work, but like all marriages that truly last it will take constant give and take, sacrifice, acceptance, respect and love.
2006-12-29 06:30:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how you both feels, but it is not a good match on a lot of point of view (religion, tradition and etc ...). I know someone who was married with a muslim guy and it didn't work. She was saying that going on his familly was really weird because woman can't talk and can only eat when the man are done their lunch and stuff like that. I am sure their is a solution if you both agree on give and take.
2006-12-29 07:16:46 · answer #5 · answered by Deeee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it can work, but are you converting to ISLAM? what country is he from? Here is were your marriage will fail, some pointer to keep in mind.
No matter how out going he is right now, if his family is religious, around them he is going to become the same and will want you to do the same. Cover your head and face and body.....
His family will probably disapprove, so to please them he will also try to change you into acting more Muslim and follow his culture and traditions. And his family will force him to convert you to Islam and follow their law, rules and tradition and trust me he will make you do it.
If you have kids they will follow Islam, and there are no ifs and buts about it.
One thing to keep in mind about Muslim men (yeah its generalization but very accurate) after they have kids they tend to suddenly become more and more religious and act pious and forget about their partying days.
As they age they become more and more religious, cause they want Allah to forgive him and make a place for them in heaven.
And BTW, if you did not know this, it is also a saying that if any Muslim convert an infidel (which you are cause you are not a Muslim) that they automatically make a place for themselves in heaven.
GOOD LUCK.
2006-12-29 06:58:31 · answer #6 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
religion is not just part of your life, it is your life, it is the way you see things, it is the way you value ideas, behaviors, action, it is striclty related to your most intimate and inner feelings and sensations. I honestly dont see much of a future, there is a huge culture and habits gap, that you cannot simply fill with love; you will think you can specially at the beginning, but soon or later you will find out that coexistance with someone whose ideas and values are so far and different from yours, is really hard and painful. I wish you good luck , but I also would like to warn you from certain pains and struggle.
2006-12-29 06:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by arwen78 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not bashing but sounds like a horrible idea. Hope he isn't trying to convert you. But if you want to be accepted, I would stay far from the USA.
2006-12-29 06:53:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really hope you've given this your extremely strong consideration. How can you expect stories of lessons learned? Do you actually know anyone who has this same combination? If either one of you follow your faith to any degree, I believe there will be strong opposing issues.
2006-12-29 06:38:21 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would tell you that you shouldn't marry him because the two if you don't have the same beliefs. The Holy Bible tells us "how can the two walk together, except they agree". He believes in Allah, and you in the Lord Jesus Christ. That is a problem. What will the children believe should you chose to have them?
2006-12-29 09:40:31 · answer #10 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋