I relly want to become a sex theraphist but my parents mit freak out if i told them & my teacher said that sex therapist destroy lives of couples.i really need help!
2006-12-29 06:21:04 · 17 answers · asked by poison i.v 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
therapize me first
2006-12-29 06:22:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 6⤋
I wonder if you or your parents know what a sex therapist does. Sex therapists do not have sex with their clients. They are counselors that treat couples who have problems with sex. There are some states where sex surrogates are legal.
If a sex therapist is treating a man or woman who is not married and does not have a b/f or g/f, the sex therapist might call in a sexual surrogate who would have sex with the client and work with the therapist to solve the clients sexual problems.
If you are a sex therapist what you do should be in accordance with the law and your moral principles.
Some sex therapists believe in the "sexual rights of children". They believe that children have the right to have sex with anyone they want to and that the law and parents should not interfere with this. That doesn't mean that you have to believe that!
I suspect that some sex therapists do destroy the lives of couples if they talk their clients into the idea that with sex, anything goes. For example, the idea of open marriage, which is that each the husband and the wife have the right to have sex with other people.
I know that some psychologists ruin peoples and couples lives by teaching that there are no "shoulds". That there is no right or wrong, that everything is "personal preference". But that doesn't mean that all psychologists do that.
Like another person who answered your question, I encourage to to ask yourself why you think that you want to go into this career.
Do you already have a talent in successfully counseling others about their sexual issues? Have you had a number of sexual problems with b/fs that you have solved and therefore learned from experience how to solve them?
After I had worked as a RN on psych units for a few years I enrolled in a degree completion program for a degree in counseling. I had to take a course in "Human Sexuality". I think if you took a course like that that you would have a much better idea of what sex therapists do.
Realize though, that these types of courses do not have anything about morals in them and that they will try to teach you that there are no such things as morals.
God bless you and guide you in your career goals.
2006-12-29 16:14:29 · answer #2 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to become a sex therapist? That is the question you should answer for yourself, because your parents will ask you too -- the same way they would ask you why you would choose any career for yourself. This career path you have chosen is an unusual one and many people will ask you questions about it. Nothing wrong with curious people, but you do want to be able to articulate why you have chosen this particular field in a mature manner. Unfortunately, a lot of people are biased against anything that has to do with talking about sex and may not think your decision is a good one.
Also, becoming a therapist of any sort takes a lot of work and schooling -- at least a Master's Degree, if not a PhD or an MD. Make sure you are ready for being in school for a long time :-).
You said your teacher told you that sex therapists destroy the lives of couples? I don't think your teacher is very informed. I am a member of AASECT -- the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. AASECT is full of highly trained professionals who care very deeply about helping couples stay together and helping individuals overcome sex problems and difficulties. Sex therapists help and heal, they do not destroy.
Maybe if you think your parents would react negatively to the idea of you becoming a sex therapist, you can tell them that you want to become a couple's counselor. Many sex therapists have training in marriage and couple's counseling before they specialize in sexual issues. Talking about wanting to help couples stay together is a lot less controversial.
Just some ideas. Happy to hear you want to become a sex therapist, or are at least thinking of being in a career related to sexuality and sexual health.
2006-12-29 14:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I told my mother, that I wanted to become a sex therapist, we were in the car and I told her i met with my advisor and she asked me what will I be attending to do with the rest of my life and I told her a sexologist. My mom looked at me and I told her that I wanted to know why the world feels so adomit about it, and I wanted to know why some people lust after others. Then I told her plus they pay great, and their are two types of sex therapist the type that sit in the room, and guide the couple and the one who listens and trys to help the couple by figuring out what might be going wrong. Aren't we glad I am going to school to help make the world a better place. But the hard part for me was telling my boyfriend parents about it, I thought they might think I was some freak, but then you have to tell yourself atleast I will be a freak with money.
Good luck to you great to know why you want to become a sex therapist, gain some knowledge about it, so when people ask you questions, know ow to respond, because you will have ignorant people who have no clue what you will be doing.
2006-12-31 17:43:04 · answer #4 · answered by just curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A sex therapist doesn't "destroy" anyone's life. They help couples overcome sexual problems. I think being a therapist in general is a wonderful goal. If your parents have a problem with it there's not a whole lot you can do about it. It's not like you would be doing anything wrong.
2006-12-29 14:23:36 · answer #5 · answered by Wiccan~Momma 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell them later, when you graduate they should be proud that your getting an education for a career. There is nothing wrong with being a sex therapist. I don't know why they would want to be mad, they can't do anything about it anyway.
2006-12-29 15:34:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hope that you understand what responsibility is in having sex especially becoming a therapist..You are putting yourself in a really bad jam right now. Do tell your parents, then mabey they could show you how teaching sex ed could be detramental like "STD's" (what if someone produces this at a party and gives it to others their (you have just become responsible for killing or damaging people for the rest of your life)) Understand the negative as much as the positive...
2006-12-29 14:49:16 · answer #7 · answered by kat 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If you became a Dr. Ruth that would be great. I was curious, how old are you and what qualifies you? Why would any parent be upset if they had a college educated child who was a Dr. to boot?
2006-12-29 15:39:36 · answer #8 · answered by Mt ~^^~~^^~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think it would be bad to tell them to soon! If you don't already have the qualifications don't say a word about it! That is unless your parents have to pay for it! And they don't ruin peoples lives they help with their intimate issues! Hope for the best!!!!
2006-12-29 14:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I suggest you research the difference between "Hooker" and "Sex therapist".
After you have your PhD, published a few books, taught a few classes, both mom and your teacher will see the light.....
Assuming you actually want to become a Sex Therapist. If you want to become a hooker.... then parents will freak and teacher is probably right.
2006-12-29 14:26:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
ya know i think a sex therapist is a great job and if were to become one i would just b like mom dad i am gonna become a sex therapist and just come cleean to it
2006-12-29 14:32:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋