DEFINITE signs of CHEATING......?

Question

I've been reading sometimes bored sad detailed stories of askers dilemmas AFTER and OBVIOUSLY DURING their partners flings of their extra martial acts. I want to READ about your TRIED and/or TRUE BEHAVIORS about yours and/or ex-significant others--I'm curious how many are remarkably the same thing we-they-do over and over again. TY you'll get 2 pts and your answers will go on my blog/email to all my coooool friends who love to rate :)

Answer 1

unexplained phone calls. newly detailed attention to hygiene and clothing. walking away to a different room when taking phone calls. erasing text messages everyday. clearing e-mails everyday. clearing incoming/outgoing phone calls on cell phone. increase in spending. alot of missed calls from YOU. unexplained absences. can never be located at work. working "overtime". not coming home on some nights. all of a sudden bond with a friend of the same sex and they are ALWAYS going out with that person, example Michael (really Michelle) is always going through something and needs your help)

Answer 2

If you have to hide anything from your partner at all, with the exception of birthday or Christmas gifts, than that should be a cause for concern!

Being specific:
Anything to enhance their appearance, such as but not limited to, losing weight, building muscle, bathing more, wearing makeup more, etc.

Any unexplained phone calls, or phone calls that are odd.

Any and all unexplained purchases with the exception of gifts for you or your children.

Working over or more business trips than usual

Spending more time with the buddies

And perhaps, the most telling of all, the acquisition of a new friend who is of the opposite sex, that is "just a friend".

Answer 3

Hi, My observations:

It seems that fidelity is easy while a partner is very engaged and invested in a relationship. I'm thinking that monogomy is not a natural thing and that we have just been socialized to believe that marriage is the only proper way to do life.

I am not saying it is okay for a person to be dishonest. It isn't. We must be as honest as possible and communicate that honesty as it changes. What hurts most is the deception; feeling like a fool for being cheated on. It is important to remain true to our own PERSONAL (not society's) values. I don't personally believe that a marriage should be continued just because of the children...I don't think its realistic to promise anything for the rest or my whole life. Most relationships end naturally...They die as we grow out of needing them and on to new ones or other things. Some people are lucky enough to grow towards goals together and manage long relationships. Others are just too stubborn to leave or stay even though miserable because of the vow, the church, etc...

When one partner is beginning to subconsiously and/or consciously want out, they will begin to become attracted to and attractive to others outside the relationship. Sometimes its a diversion. Sometimes they cheat in order to facilitate leaving the existing relationship. In retrospect, these are the signals my exhusband conveyed:

1. Started carrying mouth wash and cologne in his truck.

2. Took one phone call out to the garage.

3. Increased complaining about criticizm my son and myself. Picked fights.

4. Talked about a new client/co-worker who was going through a divorce, helped her move...all so "innocently" at the time.

5. More time spent out of town.

6. An increased interest in pornography.

7. Hinted at us swinging with another woman.

The reality is that I married him because he was pressuring me. I really didn't want to be married. The lesson: Be true to yourself and listen, really listen, to that small voice inside yourself.

Answer 4

Cell phone calls at late night hours
hanging out with "the gang" from work until late
new perfume, new makeup, new hairstyle
Losing weight, taking REALLY good care of your appearance
NO patience with your spouse
No interest in sex with your spouse, or TOO much interest
Suddenly very creative about new things in bed--Where did you learn that??
Staring off into space during conversations with spouse
Weeping after sex--if you are female
Not wanting to go away on vacation with spouse
Going on a LOT of business trips or to conventions, etc.
Internet searches for things like "Divorce", "how to end it", "cheating"
New email accounts that you aren't given the address to
Charges on the credit card for motel rooms, restaurants, gifts for members of the opposite sex that the spouse never received
Cash disappearing with no explanation
Expensive gifts attributed to friends who never spent money on them in the past
Talking in your sleep
Not sleeping in the same bed as your spouse

Answer 5

um i think shady phone calls are definitely a sign, going out more than usual, not keeping their story straight, increase or decrease of sexual activity, new clothes there a a lot of signs, but i guess it just depends on the person

Answer 6

If you live in Hollywood then there is a 100% chance that you are all cheating on each other.

Answer 7

Your gut feeling is the sign. If you think they are capable of it and you feel like they are doing it; it's at least enough to check into it.

Never ever accuse them unless you know for sure.

Answer 8

coming home late with various excuses

not having sex

whispering on the phone

just plain ole lying

Answer 9

I've always found that if a man goes out and buys himself new underwear, he is definately cheating!

Answer 10

can somebody yank this question..nevermind, I mean....this meaningless rubbish of off right here please...uh-oh..i'm hoping i do no longer disenchanted your "cool" friends who like to fee..............................